Dear Mr.Proppafix,

I am a female and I have a boyfriend in Jamaica. We've been together for almost 2 years now. I stay overseas to attend school. He has never been in a long distance relationship so I know this is hard for him. We really have feelings for each other and promise to never let anything come between us. Problem is we never have sex and all my guy friends are saying that "you are not around to comfort him so he'll turn to other females". I try my best to ignore what they are saying but then I have second thoughts. I really think this relationship will work! Do you think he will turn to other females? What should I do about this relationship? I am impatiently awaiting your reply, Please help. Please and Thanks in Advance :)

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Dear friend,

Most people would say if he really loves you he will wait, but my advice to you is that you can only hope for the best. Sometimes in life we have to make decisions that may affect us negatively such as losing important things or persons, but I personally believe what is meant to be yours will be.

1) There are some guys who will cheat on you the moment you are away.

3) Then there are some guys who will cheat on you even when you are around.

For now you just have to hope he fits description #2. However I am not saying he won't cheat, but at the end of the day it's not right for me to advise you that he will be faithfully. I think the best possible solution is to call each other regularly or via webcam which would even be a much better method.

That's my advice young lady tek it or leave it.

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Hi Mr.Proppa Fix,

I am a 53 year old woman dating a 59 year old man. This man came in my life with me thinking he had a retirement to live off of but I later found out he has no job, no income, no home no nothing. He has been with me for the past two months and I am tired of nothing I had him leave and now he is back just lays around the house, I stopped cooking, going place because he never had anything to contribute. No goals, I think I am going crazy can't stand it...he uses up my electric, water and gas enough is enough....what do you think...

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Dear EF,

It's clear to me that you entered into this relationship with a high expectation that you will be living the time of your life. However, I must let you know that a relationship is about helping each other to be firm on their feet; it's what you called a pre-marriage. During this period you both will identify the likes and the dislikes which should not be surrounded by material things.

If you believed that he will never be able to contribute to the relationship, then I think you should move on as the tone of your mail already predicted what will be your final decision…However my advice to you is if he's not physically abusing you then I think you should give him some more time to prove himself, I notice you ran him out but still you accepted him back, which is evident that there is something special about him that you liked. Another point I want to raise is - you are not getting any younger and life with out someone to love and comfort you when you are older can be miserable…it doesn't matter the amount of cash you have stored away in the bank, it will never buy you the happiness you are searching for.

That's my advice lady tek it or leave it.

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I've been married for 8yrs, with three kids I never knew my husband is bisexual, I caught him with my brother on my bed naked having sex, I never let them know what I saw. My husband is into politics, he could do anything to protect his image, what am I going to do, I have no money on me, I don't love him anymore if I leave am going to suffer, he sleeps with anything in skirts n jeans, please tell me what to do I need your help.

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Dear Anonymous,

I know how nerve wrecking this must have been for you, being deceived not only by your husband but also your own flesh and blood. Before I go any further I think you should immediately file for a divorce…I don’t think you will have any problem getting out of this miserable relationship, however the best way of doing this is by confronting him about what you have seen. The fact that he’s a well known politician he will never want his bisexual behaviors to be known by the public, I am 100% convinced that you will not have an ounce of problem emancipating yourself from out of this “Ferro” relationship. If you decided to stay then it’s clear that money is your main objective of staying into this filthy relationship, never let money steps in the way of what’s right.

I am urging that you pack up and leave this man, this is not even something for you to think about. Just remember this bold step that you are about to take is for the betterment of your kids…And I am also urging that you seek counseling.

That's my advice young woman tek it or leave it.

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Hi, I am a young woman and I have had problems with this man that I once dated. See it started like this he did not tell me that he was already dating someone. So I was ready for a friendship with him.

We started having sex with each other…few weeks later a girl called my phone cursing at me and etc. I told her the whole truth about me and this man. She told me that he was her man. I called him a few days later and he picked up the phone. He cursed me out so bad. I really did feel bad. It hurt me that he cursed me out like that. I haven’t talked to him since then and I don’t plan to. I think that the reason he cursed me out was because he did not really want her to know about me and him in the first place. So please could you give me some important advice please.
"S"

Hello to you sir, first I must congratulate you on the work you are doing, I do hope you can find it to help and give your advise on my situation.

I have a boyfriend of six years but he's in the states now for three years. He went away on work programme. He's convinced that we're still together now but I don't know what to think. I love him very much still. I am sickly now and everyday and minute he call and text to see if am ok. He is concern about my health. On the other hand I met an older guy two years ago (much older), he wanted to be with me but I told him no due to the fact that I love my boyfriend a lot. Telling this guy no is an invitation to my heart. He showered me with gifts, money even when I don't want it. I must say I am not a gold digger and certainly not a user.

With my boyfriend I tell him everything, how I met this older guy and he's giving me things, he's upset but he is not the type to shower people with things but show love and affection to a person.

This other guy now is a business man and I hardly see him but he does not show the love he has for me like my boyfriend does. Well the problem is, this other guy bought me a car and almost finishes my house and as I said I am not a gold digger. I tried to tell him not but he still insists. The other problem is my boyfriend is coming in September and I don't know what to do. I want to leave the older guy but I don't want him to think anything and you know people now-a-days, they will kill even the ones they love and I don't like to break people's heart. Can you give me any advice as how to go about this situation? Thanks in advance!

CC

Dear Mr. Proppafix
I have been trapped in a situation that I think is more than just a fantasy. Since of late it has become a nightmare but yet still I find myself doing the same thing over and over again.

What I really want to say is that I am involved with this guy and words cannot explain how nice of a person he is. I constantly hurts him even though he has no clue about the horrible things I am doing to him. I have slept with almost every one of his friends.

He is not the first guy that I have hurt like this but I kept on doing it because it’s a big turn on for me to secretly make out with the friends of the guys who I am dating. I do not want to lose this guy that I am with right now as he is really one of the best guys I’ve ever talked to. I am now scared that one of his friends might tell him about what I have done.

Once ago it would have not been a problem if the guys found out because then I talked to them just for fun but this guy is different. Please let me know what can be done to help rid me of this addiction.

-Messed Up.

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Dear Mr. Proppafix,

Hey my name is Alyssa and I need your help - wondering if I should get pregnant. I am only fifteen but my life is hectic and I need someone to love.

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Dear Alyssa,

I am here wondering too Alyssa. I am startled to know that you are just fifteen and already you are contemplating if you should get pregnant.

You also complained that you are living a hectic lifestyle - you did not mention the reason(s) for your lifestyle to be hectic. However, the only thing that should be occupying your teenage years right now is school.

"I need someone to love," are your exact words. Alyssa this is where I am going to recommend that you address this issue with your mother, if you are scared to talk to your mom about it then try to confide in your school’s guidance counselor.

Alyssa I am begging you to erase those foolish thoughts, you are too young to be thinking about getting pregnant and searching for love.

That's my advice young woman tek it or leave it.

Dear Mr. Proppafix,

I am a Muslim girl. I am 18. I am having sex regularly since January with my boyfriend. However, my parents are against our marriage. I don't want to hurt them and I want to leave my boyfriend but the thought that am not a virgin anymore makes me restless.

I am writing to you to find a solution to my problem. I can't sleep at night and I don't feel hungry anymore. Apart from surgery, is there any way to regain my virginity??? If not, how can I convince my husband I'm a virgin when I’m not? In our culture, it's really essential for a girl to be a virgin when she gets married else she will be returned to her mother's place the next day. I am very scared about it.

What if I don't have sex for a longtime? Will my vagina be tight?? If so, will my future husband able to tell if am a virgin or not? How about the blood? How can I make him believe am a virgin? plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz help me out!!! AM worried!!!

Thank u v v v v v v v much in advance. Waiting for your reply impatiently.

-NB

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Dear NB,

It is quite a sticky situation that you have gotten yourself in. No, there are no other ways to regain your virginity except for surgery as once the hymen is broken it's impossible to regain your virginity even if you stop having sexual intercourse.

The only solution I see to the problem is to tell your parents that you have been sexually involved with your present boyfriend and tell them about both your plans to get married. Let them know that you realize that they are against you getting married to this man but unfortunately, in your culture you are now "tainted" and cannot be married off to someone as a virgin. Put it this way, better to deal with their wrath now before getting someone else involved and bringing shame to them when you are returned to them because you are not a virgin. All the best and I do hope it works out for you!

Dear Mr. Proppa fix,

I met a girl I like in high school while I was still in Jamaica when we were teenagers. I could not come and visit her for a couple years, but I haven't stopped sending her money through western union. She told me that she’s being faithful to me and everything but once I called her on the phone one night and she answered and said "yes" "yes" "yesss" then she threw down the cell phone on the bed and thought it was turned off. All I heard was dirty talks along with sexual sounds it sounded like busy signals song "mi nah answa" in there.

I don't know what to do she takes all my plane fare why I cannot come and visit her. I can't say I’m mad -- but she is my complete equal in every way but it wasn't suppose to be like this my father had told me once that she was the one for me and I knew it the very moment our eyes meet. I even gotten into physical fistfights over her with my friends and loved it because it we were fighting for her loving eyes. I don't know what to do should I continue with this relationship I have waited a long time for her hand in marriage and need her in my life in my country.
-JR
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Dear JR,

From the tone of your letter, I can tell that you are truly in love with this girl, but on the other hand, you are far from reality.

You need to get a grip of yourself, as this girl is only using you…This is not high school days anymore, brother I know it's hard for you to believe, but she has moved on. If you really want to know, what kind of person she is then stop sending her money for a while and sees what happens.

Even though your dad gave you the thumbs-up about this girl that doesn't means he's right…from the moment you called her and she answered "yes, yes, yesss" in that aggressive tone along with the sexual sounds you heard - that's a clear indication that things are not the same anymore.

My brother "nuh put nuh woman pon yuh head."

Can you please give me some advice on what to do?

Dear Mr. Proppafix,

I have the most loving relationship any girl could ask for. The sex is great, my man is very caring, I want for nothing, my 3 kids (for this same man) are very happy as he loves them and showers them with affection. From the outside looking in, it is the perfect relationship. My problem is this, Mr Proppafix, he has asked me to marry him and I am having serious doubts. A while back I saw him with some female garments and we had this huge argument as I thought he was having an affair and that is when he confessed to me that he is a cross dresser. He said that he is happy that I finally find out and that he can be himself around me. He assures me that he is not gay, that he is not bi-sexual that he just loves to wear female clothes and make-up. My problem is I don’t know if I should marry him. I need your advice.
-Confused

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Dear Confused,
I think that you should look at the substance of your relationship over the matter. Women's intuition is very good and you can tell if your man is gay. If your intuition tells you that he is not (don't be in denial if it tells you that he is) then I think that you should go ahead and marry the man. You should discuss this openly though before you get married and tell him what you honestly feel about him dressing up as a woman.

Dear Proppafix,

Can you please give me some advice on what to do about my masturbating habits?

This addiction is now causing problems in my relationship because by the time my boyfriend gets home I am well satisfied. So when he's in need of intercourse I am just not in the mood because I've already masturbated three times for the day.

Mr. Proppafix I don't know if you knew this but when a woman reaches her peak she just don't feel like having no penetration. My boyfriend has no idea of my masturbating habits and now he's accusing me of giving him bun. He's a very nice guy but I just can't seems to find the urge of having sex with him unless he comes home just in time before I masturbate.

Please tell me what I can do get rid of this addiction that seems to be on its way of wrecking my relationship?

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Dear...
At some point in your life, you have to make choices between what is important and what is not. You therefore have to consciously make the decision between your addiction and your relationship. For any kind of addiction there is a root cause; whether it be drugs, alcohol or masturbation, to name a few. You have to find out what it is that makes you want to masturbate as opposed to making love to your boyfriend.

I would suggest that you seek some counseling before you tell him about your addiction so that he can see that you are indeed trying to kick the habit. Good luck.

That is my advice young lady - tek it or leave it

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Dear Proppafix,

Hello, good day to you sir I hope you will be able to help me with a few issues that are stressing me.

Sir I have a problem trying to figure out if I am a lesbian or not. Why? Because within the past few months my feelings for girls have been getting deeper and it’s now creeping the guts out of me. It’s like I am becoming something that I don’t want to become but at the same time I find myself wondering what it would be like to make love to another girl, kissing her lips, her neck and playing with her nipples. Sir I even started dreaming about girls.

Once, one of my friends asked to spend the weekend with me and I happily told her yes. She went to have a bath and asked me to pass a towel for her, after giving her the towel I just could not get out of the bathroom, my virgina immediately gets wet and I felt like holding her and kissing her. Up to this day I am still, wonder if she recognize how seductive my eyes were all over her body.

My question is am I becoming a lesbian and if so, what can I do to get this feeling away or is it that I should go along and live my fantasies?

-Am I

Let me just get straight to the point I'm a 23 year old young girl seeing a soon to be 48 year old man. We have been going strong for eight years now he's the guy who took away my virginity at the age 15, he was 40 at da time. But the sex isn't so good now. I'm thinking of ending it.

Wat do u think Mr. Proppafix?

Dear,
At 15 yrs old, you should not have been having sex and worse, this 40-yr-old man should have known better than to be having sex with you. However, your relationship has been continuing and you are now an adult - so ask yourself why you were in this relationship in the first place. Compare the good times you have had and all the things he has done and continues to do for you against just the sex not being good. Also, ask yourself if the sex life is deteriorating because you are no longer as interested as you used to be. I would not suggest that you leave a man just because of the sex. I would encourage you to "get back to basics" with him. Tell him all the things that he used to do to excite you, to make you enjoy sex and want to have more sex, start to "try out" new, exciting ways and places to have sex. Be creative, be adventurous which might help to put the spice back in your sex life.

There is also the fact that there may be trouble in the future as you are just 23 yrs old. In another 10 yrs when you would have reached your sexual prime, he will be almost 60 yrs old but with the help of sex enhancing drugs, it could still work if you are still interested then as I know men that are way into their 70s still having an active sex life. Good luck and all the best.

All the best- this is my advice young lady - tek it or leave it.

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Dear sir I am a 19-year-old female with a little problem, the thing is I met this guy about a month and couple days ago who is very cute and sexy.

Within the first two weeks, he started requesting sexual pleasures, it’s not that I don't want to but I have told him a big lie and I think it will affect our relationship.

When I just met him, we shared our likes and dislikes. We then started talking about sex during our discussion he told me that he always fantasized about making love to a virgin. At the time, I wanted to impress him so I told him that he was looking at his fantasy.

I really need your advice on this one because I am so in love with this guy, I don't know why I did not speak the truth but I guess it’s a female thing. Right now, we are not on good terms because he thinks I am playing by not wanting to have sex with him. The other day we were all set to go out then he called and told me if we are not going to have sex, it makes no sense seeing each other. Please tell me what to do, I don't want to lose him.

- I Lied

I am asking for your help, advice, anything that will help me to get rid of this feeling

Dear Mr. Proppafix,
I know this might seems extremely weird to you but for me it’s happening and I would love for what I am going to explain to you to stop, but I am addicted to what is also addicted to me and that is my little sister. I will not disclose anything much about her or myself because it would be shameful if our parents were to ever find out.

This is the dilemma I have been facing, I went away to study in the States, after a few months away from home I found myself thinking a lot about my sister by my father’s side of the family. I guess by now you have picked up what I am talking about. She thinks a lot about me as well. At first it seems like nothing but now I think I am losing it because the last time when I came to Jamaica, she introduced me to her boyfriend and I could feel my heart crying, from then until now it has been affecting me, whenever I think about her having someone else. Even so, we still shared moments together, but I hate to know that she has a boyfriend now.

Mr. Proppafix I think I am in love with my sister and I am asking for your help, advice, anything that will help me to get rid of this feeling. At this moment, I am not seeing anyone else and sometimes just by thinking about my sister it feel as if I have the world but now that I am getting more mature, I am beginning to realise that what we are doing is wrong but yet it feels so great.

-Brother

Dear ProppaFix, I really need your advise on this one I am nineteen years of age and I live with my boyfriend he is 25. This year will be three years since we have been together. This guy does everything he can for me, he pay all the bills have sex with me whenever I want however I want it and goes out with me and takes the best care of me.

When I first started to date him I wasn't in love with him, I just did it for the convenience, however I have a little feeling for him. My problem with him his he don't know what he is doing financially he is always in debt and I am not sure about his goals - he seems to be very reluctant. He doesn't have a passport a license or try to get a visa and all these little things.

She's In Love With Another Man

I am in love with this other guy. He lives with his girlfriend and he as a very busy job and he also have his son which does not live with him so he have to attend to him. I don't know why but I am so in love with him we have a very good reasoning ability we talk about anything and when we make love he seems to enjoy it so much. We have sex anywhere anytime. But sometimes he is too busy for me like he haven't gotten me anything for my birthday saying he is so busy. I don't know what to do, I don't want to stay and hurt the guy that I am with because he wants a child and I don't want to get pregnant for him the other guy lives with his woman and I don't want to come out and then end up alone but my heart is not at home I don't know what to do.

-Confused Girl

Hi Mr. Proppafix

First, I must commend you on the good job you have been doing. I am 28 years old and have been with my children's father for almost eleven years now. Out of the years of togetherness, I am the one who has been working three quarter of the time and when I talk about it, he starts to flare up and behave as if he will hit me. We have bills to pay (rent, light & water bills) and I have to be standing everything. I tried to leave him more than once but we always end up back together.

He is in to inherit some money from family ties and he expect us to get married but I don't really want to stay with him because I think one day he will get really upset and might go as far as hurting me. He always mouths the children on every slip up and that is not right. I think that he can cut them some slack sometimes because no man is perfect. I am in a loop here so please I need your advice.

Sexy Diva

Hello Mr.Proppa Fix,

I am glad that my article titled My girls are always complaining - I can't give that extra mile has been finally published with advices from you. So as from today I am starting to do and act as you have advised me and any improvement will be made known to you anytime in the future.

I am so glad that you don’t only care about people in Jamaica but also in Africa and especially my tiny and poor nation of Sierra Leone. I am a regular viewer of outaroad.com and hope to make more Sierra Leoneans become conversant with this site. I am somebody that greatly loves your culture and believe that I will one day visit that Island which I've dreamt of always since I started knowing good from bad.

Hope to continue sending my views on certain issues that are really tormenting me. And also glad to tell you that Sierra Leoneans love Jamaican culture as well as their music’s. So we in Sierra Leone are hoping to one day see more Jamaican artist come to Sierra Leone.

Big shout out to you Mr. Proppa Fix and also to the OutAroad.com team.

Love and Respect
-A.M From Freetown,Sierra Leone(West Africa)

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Dear Mr. Proppa Fix,

I am a guy living in Freetown (Sierra Leone, West Africa) and 30yrs. old. For the past two (2) to three (3) months, I have been experiencing serious problems concerning my sexual life. Before, I use to have great pace and energy during sex, but now things seem to turn around a bit. My penis doesn't get stronger and I can't give that great pace and go that extra mile I use to have and go during sex. My sperm is no longer as thick as it used to be -even if I abstain from sex for a month.

So please, I'm really confuse and wanted to get myself out of this situation but don't know how. I am only able to have better sex when I drink about four(4)or five(5)bottles of hot stout and at least two(2)joints of ganja in order to give me that extra power needed to satisfy my girls. I used to be a person with extra energy and pace before. My girls always complimented me for and now it's really boring with me because of my situation.

So please, kindly help me out of this situation as your advice will be of great importance and help to me.
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Dear A.M.

There are a few things that you need to consider before you worry about loosing your sexual abilities:

1) -- Are you getting enough exercise and are you eating properly? This can affect your performance not only in the bedroom but in general as eating the wholesome foods gives, you the energy you need to operate to the best of your abilities. Balance your diet, drink a lot of water and always remember to have fresh fruits and vegetables as much as possible. I guarantee that this will increase your energy levels significantly.

Dear Mr. Propafix,
I really need your advice. I am 19 years old and I am involved with a 38 year old man. So far he has been treating me really nice and helps me with any financial difficulty. I attend a well known teachers college and I’m at my final year but at times I feel like I’m too good for him are he is below my standard. He does not know anything about Standard English, he is always very loud, he comes from the ghetto, he work has a bus driver and yes, he has a son who is 5 years old. Inspite of all those things I still find him to be a sweet individual and I just cannot leave him. We have been together for almost a year and there has been no problem it’s just smooth sail. But why am I having second thoughts, please help me out.
-AW
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Dear AW,

From what I am reading, I don’t think it has nothing to do with he being really nice to you or the fact that he doesn’t know Standard English, I think you are more worried about going back to your poor financial status if you were to end the relationship.

Yeah Mr. Proppa! I am a guy 19 yrs old. I kinda have a way with girls but sometimes I worried if I am pleasuring my girls the way they like it. What is the best way to find out if I am indeed doing well? What do I do to make sure she gets what she is looking for? Lastly, sometimes I "finish first" depending on the mood, how do I control it if I am not ready?

-Mr. Pleasure

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Dear Mr. Pleasure,

It’s always important to communicate with your partner during sexual intercourse this is the number one way of knowing if you are doing a good job. In addition, when having sex pays attention to your partner and watch for signs of pleasure that most women displayed on their face. Another tip is most women will squeeze you whenever they are experiencing great pleasure - for a bonus effect continue to penetrating that same area and that should do the job.

As for your premature ejaculation, I have inserted a video with a few tips on how to prevent premature ejaculations. If your problem persist, it would be best for you to make an appointment with a sexologist

That is my advice young man - tek it or leave it

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By K.A.L
Letter To The Editor

In light of the tragic news that has hit the Christian community regarding the passing of Gospel Recording Artiste, Kasim “Moses” Grant, I find it imperative to write this piece, why? because already the rumors, half truths and twisted facts are flying, belittling what this young man stood for all his adult life, and with an even more detrimental issue at work, the attempt of the enemy to erase his efforts in life with one last tragic mistake, the type of mistake that not only gives the body of Christ a black-eye in the eyes of the public, but also gives the enemy the type of victory he yearns for daily.

We have all heard the reports, the speculations, accusations and assumptions, but what really happened, did Moses have a gun, was it a licensed firearm, was it an illegal firearm, was he killed, did he commit suicide? The questions are many, and like always, the answers are few, but the twisted facts are many; so where do we go from here, do we condemn this young man without knowing what really happened?

Some of us already have, and some are unsure about what to believe, but forget what you heard, feel or even know to be the truth, because regardless of the facts, one thing remains true, we have all sinned and come short of the glory of God, and like Jesus said, “He who is without sin, let him cast the first stone,” John 8:7.

Dear Mr Proppafix

I'm so confuse. I like this guy that goes to the same school as me. We talk...during our conversation I asked him if he has a woman his response were "not really" after all that he asked for my number so, I gave it to him. He didn't call me till a week after... One night (a Monday night) he called... he asked me out, while we were there enjoying one another company, he asked for a kiss so I gave him suddenly I feel his hand touching my breast so I move away and tell him that he is going too far.

He didn't call me till the next Monday so, I asked him why he didn't called me, he said he been calling me but no one was home so I let that passed. So I told him that I don’t expect a commitment, I aint that stupid, but at the same time I am not looking for a one time, two time f**k. Tuesday he asked me out again, I said yes...we went out again but this time we take it to another level. We started kissing one another, feeling one another...Another hot and humid kiss rekindled our fire. He asked, "Since you already satisfy me let me satisfy you back" ...I whispered in a rhetorical tone, “We cant do this. Not this quick. Getting naked too soon always leads to problem...his dick slid in my vagina but before 6 seconds I tell him to stop, so we stopped kiss and that was it...while we're there heading home we had a wonderful conversation.

from since that night he haven't call me so, I am wondering if it was all about the sex he wanted or he want me to miss him....I know this sound a bit off but, I'm a bit confuse...I need your advise.

-K.S.

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Dear Editor,

My question is who really won the clash, was it Mavado or is it Vybz Kartel? I was at Sting and I watched two of Jamaica’s best deejays battled. However, at the end of the day no one seems to can identify who’s the victor. Some people saying it’s Vybz Kartel and by the time I reached the exit another bunch of people saying Mavado kill the deejay. I am not a fan of Vybz Kartel or Mavado so I should be able to give my honest opinion about what took place at Sting.

Before I even go any further, hats off to Mavado and Vybz Kartel for making the battlefield crowdy and to also demonstrate to the world that we can once again have lyrical face-offs without physical action. Mavado is to be further commended for taking up the task of a Dj in battling Vybz kartel- a man known to know no lyrical boundaries, a man who feels that ‘all is fair in love and war’!

Now lets talk about who won the clash, Mavado or Kartel, yeah man it’s Kartel, nooo man it’s Mavado, okay it’s a tie. I know Vybz Kartel’s fans or Mavado’s fans might not agree but as you read on you will understand what I am suggesting. Fans need to put aside their personal likes for each artiste and admit the fact that both artistes did exceptionally well to have their fans going home confused wondering who won the clash.

One Man's Victory
Merciless’ victory against Bounty Killer and Ninja Man at Sting 2000 is what you called a 100% win. Everyone left the venue complimenting Merciless for dismantling Bounty Killer and Ninja Man.

The first half of the clash definitely went to Vybz Kartel AKA Adi Di Techa, it’s also evident that Mavado became a bit nervous. Even though he was, being lyrically punished by Vybz Kartel the Gully Gad stood his ground and managed to propel his self-back into the clash.

Dear Mr Proppafix

My man slept with my mum by accident. He claims it is an accident and my mum never really knew he was my boyfriend although it seems she suspected it a bit because she asked me about him before and if we've done anything. I never really told her about my boyfriends because she could use it against me later and say stuff. I'm highly pissed off! I came in the house and heard them in her bedroom together and now I don't know what to do. I'm confused, should I leave the one I love and what about my mum? Should I forgive her?

She's married but has been cheating on my father for awhile now but being a loyal daughter I kept my mouth shut for awhile but once I told my daddy she's been upset at me ever since even had the nerve to say " She wish she never had me."

Help me out I'm in need of some REAL advice because I've been with my man since 2006 and I plan for him to be my husband in the near future. He claims he loves me and is very sorry but if he did this imagine what he does behind my back .I just am in need of some advice on what should I do in this situation.

Sincerely,

Spanish Jamaican

Dear Mr. Proppa Fix,

My cousin is very disgusting she has sex with almost every guy she talks to.
I want to help her but unsure of how to so I'm in need of your advice. This is what happened:

My cousin has been having sex with a lot of different guys and I always come along just to make sure nothing bad happens to her especially when she's meeting the guys she talks to on the internet. She meets them on Myspace talks awhile and tells them all the sexual stuffs she wants to try then she sets dates to meet them and I tag-along because she asks me to just to make sure she's safe. When we reach to a guy's house I sit and wait in the living room while she has sex with them and / or suck them off. I don't mind if she did that with her boyfriend but she's just doing this with random guys. She has even had sex with three friends, one right after the other but I wasn’t there, but then I found out because now she's being called a whore / slut and she thinks her p*ssy is good that's why people are talking about her.

The worst thing happened recently in the summer when we were in Jamaica. This guy picked her up with his car and I went also and I waited outside the car while he f**ked her in the back seat then a couple days later everyone in the town was talking about it. That made her upset since we have cousins and a Grandma and family members living in Jamaica. Now I've told her mother about her frequent sex acts and her mum said to me she hopes her and her father catch aids.

We recently went to the doctor together since I'm a runner on the track team at my school so I had to get a physical and she went to get a check-up and found out she had to see a gynecologist. Her vagina is bleeding uncontrollably with period blood and it's lasting longer than suppose to but I know the truth, it's because of what she's been doing. It's been affecting her since January this year but she's been hiding it until now since she had to go to the doctor because the bleeding won't stop.

Well please Mr. Proppafix let me know some ways to help her if that's even possible.

Sincerely,
Concerned Cousin

Dear Mr. Proppafix,

I am an 18-year-old student living in east Kingston. I attend a prominent high school and I am doing fairly well in school. I met a 38-year-old married man almost a year now who I became involved with. He is a very nice person who wants the best for me. We share many things in common and it’s like I can’t do without him. I also can’t complain about the sex which is very good because he knows his stuff.

In June I went to Barbados for 3 months and came back in September, however when I was there I cheated on him which was not suppose to happen. It was once and I told him about it and he claimed to have forgiven me. I didn’t believe this, because in late September his calls were minimized and then the next thing I know he was telling me I am on a time out. I was really pissed during my time out I started talking to someone - he had the audacity to ask if he gave me permission to do so!

It’s like I am living on the edge where he is concerned because the other day I was by his house and when he was driving out his wife was going home and I nearly get my a*s whooped. If I mention to him that he is using me, he will get upset. I honestly don’t want to leave him because he is like a best friend to me I tell him everything and he is always there for me.

He also has a child not with his wife and he doesn’t want one with his wife neither sometimes I have to wonder if he is gay because he doesn’t want to have any children with his wife. Not even with me because I don’t want a bastard child if I let him get me pregnant. Things are so complicated of late, I don’t know what to do things are not the same, and I feel like I am holding on to someone that is not there. He is a November man who loves sex to the max, I don’t even trust him. Sometimes I feel like when his wife is at work he brings in other women and when I call, he tells me he is sleeping because I see him do it when we are together. I really don’t know what to do.

Worried Teen

Dear Mr.Proppa fix,

I am 18 years of age and am currently dating a 26-year-old man. He has two kids for two different mothers. I knew about this when the relationship was already in full swing so it was hard for me to leave, plus he is no longer with either of them so it was not easy for me to detect. He says he loves me, but these days I don’t think men understand the meaning of that word anymore.

Although he is always around me, he has these unbearable ways. When we’re together he is always looking at other women (and a mean ‘bruking’ him neck to do so), this is why I don’t act intimate with him in public because I don’t want to look like a fool. His phone is ALWAYS ringing, and sometimes they sound a little too intimate because he starts whispering or he leaves my presence to take the phone call. His explanation is, “him ‘pree’ other people because he likes to be aware of his surrounds” and the phone calls are just friends, then he tries to flip the script and asks- what about the calls I get or the people I look at? When we go out, especially to clubs this is where I get the feeling most, because he tends to leave me every 5mins.

In terms of finance, it splits into a sixty- forty ratio with me being 60. I mean he is the one working and I’m the one spending more. I know all of this sounds bad but he still treats me amazing and the sex is great and complicated at the same time. We broke up several times for this and I must admit a love the break-ups because they are always so dramatic and exciting. Since reuniting there are slight changes, and he is someone I love to be around because of his personality, however I still don’t trust him.

To be honest I haven’t been completely innocent because of him, I snoop around to make myself feel better about this, but not to the extent to call it cheating. Should I cheat to make this work because I feel that’s the only way?

p.s. I know that at the end of reading this you might think that this relationship is too big for me, and I fell like I can already predict your response, however a really want you to think about it.

-Dear J.R.

Dear Mr. proppafix

I am a middle-aged educator at a prominent school in rural Jamaica. I have been having some problems for the past few months and I was wondering if you could advise me as how to deal with them. Others have told me that I am a quiet person and I tend to keep all my feelings inside instead of revealing them to others so writing this letter to you is a huge step for me.

I was raised in a Christian household, and like many Christian young men, I decided to get married at an early age. She is much more outgoing than I am - she likes to go out, she has many friends and has a lot more hobbies than I do. She used to always say that I needed to be more adventurous and that I act like an old man!

I gave her all my love, commitment, and I never looked at another woman while we were together. Our sex life was interesting and the first time we made love, I realized that she was experienced. It was my first time so I was lost and I felt a little embarrassed, but she assured me that she would work with me until I became a ‘pro’.

We had been having some rocky times in our marriage and this is so painful to say but to cut a long story short, I came home one day to find her having sex with a man in my house on my bed! Obviously, she had to go and we haven’t spoken since.

My big problem is - call me crazy or just plain stupid, but I still think about her. Sometimes I wonder what she is doing and if she is ok! She works part time and I wonder if she is making ends meet. I don’t know how to get her out of my thoughts. I haven’t mentioned these feelings to anybody because I am afraid that they will laugh at me and maybe think I am stupid. Should I contact her and reconcile? Technically, she is still my wife because the divorce is not final.

-Teacher

By Patrice Henry
Letter To The Editor

Last week was my first time writing to OutAroad.com's (Letter to the Editor), but since the constant kidnapping of females and children I felt it is right for me to say my piece. I hope the authorities can quickly put an end to this plague that has fallen on our society.