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I am not a virgin - I lied

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Dear sir I am a 19-year-old female with a little problem, the thing is I met this guy about a month and couple days ago who is very cute and sexy.

Within the first two weeks, he started requesting sexual pleasures, it’s not that I don't want to but I have told him a big lie and I think it will affect our relationship.

When I just met him, we shared our likes and dislikes. We then started talking about sex during our discussion he told me that he always fantasized about making love to a virgin. At the time, I wanted to impress him so I told him that he was looking at his fantasy.

I really need your advice on this one because I am so in love with this guy, I don't know why I did not speak the truth but I guess it’s a female thing. Right now, we are not on good terms because he thinks I am playing by not wanting to have sex with him. The other day we were all set to go out then he called and told me if we are not going to have sex, it makes no sense seeing each other. Please tell me what to do, I don't want to lose him.

- I Lied

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Dear I Lied,
Everyone has a fantasy and would love in their lifetime to be able to explore it. Some people never in their lifetime get to do that and the ones, who think they can, spend an excessive amount of time trying to "fulfill their fantasies.

I hate to break it to you but the only thing that this guy is really interested in is fulfilling his fantasy because you waved it right in front of his face. If a man can give you an ultimatum after just meeting him for a month about having sex, ask yourself, after this has happened, what next?

The only way you can resolve this issue is by coming clean and telling him that you have lied and that he should give you a chance to prove that you are not a serial liar. If he likes you as much as he says that, he does, he will be hurt but he will stick around. This may sound very cliché but always remember to "speak the truth and nothing but the truth.

All the best- this is my advice young lady - tek it or leave it.

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Comments (44)

 

toni:
Posted by toni | June 8, 2009 12:02 PM

Youngin, tell him the truth, I think it will be a blessing in disguse because the prick seems to only want to get between your legs and pick your cherry, so he can have one under his belt. You don't love him, you can't! It's still new. He sure as hell doesn't care about you and he showed this when he told you 'if your not going to have sex, then it makes no sense to see each'. Tell the little firestick that your not a virgin and see how fast it cool him... You can do better.



Silencer-90:
Posted by Silencer-90 | June 8, 2009 12:27 PM

Why woman love f**k and then lie pon them hole suh...you tried to play games with the man head now the game is over , you lose.



truth:
Posted by truth | June 8, 2009 12:28 PM

here wat me a seh!!
if u love him run it lol im just kidding
the thing is i'm a man and one thing in life that is facts is that man simple minded when it comes to sex is eida yes or no if it good it good u stay if its not we try move on as it is the same with females if u flop u nah go get a next as they call it chance but its the same thing but where as it is about the mind women are more into connecting with ppl if they cant find that connection it nah go happen but u now young lady u need fi know urself before u do nuttn else cause if u want to impress him by telling a lie ur no betta dan he is if its just sex alone him want casue all u did is tease di man an tap into him curiosity but u neva know if afta he gets his fantasy he will stick around u neva know!!!
if u follow what neagative ppl have to say (TONI) u may neva find out if its true or not :)
bless



Gracey:
Posted by Gracey | June 8, 2009 12:38 PM

this girl p*ssy nuh have no value she just know di man and already shi contemplating fi run di p*ssy girl you are so not a good girl you are b*tch who loves to f**k and then a try trick di youth wid yuh done out hole bout yuh a virgin



truth:
Posted by truth | June 8, 2009 12:47 PM

Yow nuttn nuh wrong wid just meeting and f**king some ppl get lasting relationships from dat all if a di same day dem meet an f**k nuttn nuh wrong an now imagine u dating someone for months almost a year and when u seh yea man me ready now and unnu have sex it nuh fulfilling like weh u did a xpect on eida party side it a go mash up di ting suh a betta woman just start run it an test the waters cause u neva know !!!



goodaz:
Posted by goodaz | June 8, 2009 12:55 PM

a bowy affi work hard fi dah p*ssy yah it nuh come cheap and easy yuh know how much money mi affi spend pon mi good up p*ssy fi it smell fresh and clean because no nuh dutty bowy nah guh get di chance fi guh tell him friend mi p*ssy a rotten

P.S. ladies let dem pay fi keep di fresh



TONI:
Posted by TONI | June 8, 2009 1:04 PM

Is either your a full blown idiot or you just love to talk out your a*s... WHICH PART OF MY COMMENT WAS NEGATIVE, please get a dictionary and search the word NEGATIVE! Your advice to this young female is laughable, what do u mean we don't know if he will stay???The young man already stated that if they aren't going to have sex it makes no sense in seeing each other. Even a blind man can see what this young man is after. I advice her to tell him the TRUTH for two things 1. It's wrong to mislead someone and 2. This virgin thing is the only reason he wants to
SEX her, telling him this will weed out his intention thus giving her way to find herself better if (and most likely he will seeing that his fantasy won't be fulfilled) he decides not to go any further....

P.S.-listen, don't address me either, if you aren't in agreement with my comment, lock yuh eye and scroll past it!



TONI:
Posted by TONI | June 8, 2009 1:07 PM

Sorry forgot to put my name that was for so-called 'truth'.



meleon:
Posted by meleon | June 8, 2009 1:18 PM

Two things mi affi seh!

1. NEVER tell a LIE pon u P*SSY again! (Let this be a lesson).
2. Run di bwoy, is just v-meat him a look.

3. If a man can't accept u fi who u is, him nuh worth it...consider this lie a blessing in disguise...chances are if u were indeed a virgin, u woulda let off di pumps quick and him woulda dump u ass afta.

4. Next time him call...tell him fi go call a SEX-hotline fi fulfil him fantasy...u is nobaddy come-to-help-us!

5. NEVER TELL A LIE PON U P*SSY AGAIN!

OK so it's 5 things I had to say!



meleon:
Posted by meleon | June 8, 2009 1:23 PM

Hail Toni! I see dem starting pon u early... LOLOL! Girl u right in every sense...dis child need fi move on and figget bout dis lecherous male yah!



b-rad:
Posted by b-rad | June 8, 2009 1:53 PM

if this fool gets you pregnant you think he gonna stick round??? Cut it off Girl, you 19, there are a million other guys you could be spending your time with where you don't haffi lie......



toni:
Posted by toni | June 8, 2009 2:08 PM

@meleon....lol bowyyyy we can't get a break, look how mi a give the youngin good advice and mi get attack lol.... anyways mel, when u ago start up ur own advice column???



Posted by Vybez | June 8, 2009 2:12 PM

The Fact is if he only wan go out if there is sex behind it means that there is no love there its just a f**k thing for him... so unless u prepared to keep giving it to him you better just leave! Love doesnt just consist of sex!



beauty1610:
Posted by beauty1610 | June 8, 2009 2:20 PM

GURL IM VIRGIN AND YOU DONT IMPRESS GUYZ LIKE THAT TELL EM THE TRUTH AND HE WOULD FIND IT HARD TO BELIEVE ANYTHING THAT YOU SAY IF YOU REMAIN TOGETHER HE'LL JUST HIT AND RUN....



sashy:
Posted by sashy | June 8, 2009 2:41 PM

DEM FI PLAY THE SPOOGIE FI DAH GIRL YA. SHE FRAID THE MAN SAY "YOU A VIRGIN ...BIG HOLE GAL YOU A VIRGIN...HOW YOU HOLE SO BIG" AND RUN HAR...SHE SHOULDN'T DO IT INNA THE FIRST PLACE THOU..A DEM GIVE WOMAN BAD NAME.



mamalastboy:
Posted by mamalastboy | June 8, 2009 2:58 PM

u see y uno nuh fi bl**dclaat lie,anyway mi hav a tip fi yuh still USE BLUE SOAP AN TIGHTEND UP DI DAMP AN QUINT IT FROM START TO FINISH. but wen no blood nuh com mi nuh hav no idea fi deh one deh figure out dat yuh self



Tacious is a GOOD LOOK:
Posted by Tacious is a GOOD LOOK | June 8, 2009 3:30 PM

First things, first, Wha gwan Meleon & Toni?? Hope y'all had a fabulous weekend :)
Toni, why they wanna start at us so much nowadays????
Keep doing you girl, your intelligence ah mad dem!!

To the topic,
Girl, as afore mentioned, never lie on the vagina maannnn. It's the worst thing you can do. Because once he eventually gets in there, he will definately tell.

Also, he only said HE FANTASIZES having sex with a virgin...and fantasy is different from reality. My guess is that if you were honest with him from the get-go, he probably wouldn't mind sexing you because really...what guy you know can ever refuse sex...virgin or no virgin???

And you also mentioned that he said "if your not going to have sex, there is no sense in being together". That alone should signal that he is interested in your goodies and not a relationship. So what you need to do is leave him, re-evaluate your needs and standards and get you a real man. Who can accept you just as you are and wait for the sex.



Can:
Posted by Can | June 8, 2009 4:08 PM

Girl tell the man the truth & hope him drop yuh, cuz u dont know the real reason y him so particular about sexing a virgin. Next ting him have HIV/AIDS & him is one of those ignorant & dark a*sholes out there that believe sexing a virgin can cure it. I'm sure if u dont tell him the truth & him force u into having sex he's going to want to do it bare back (thats his whole point of wanting to f**k a virgin), & u might be very sorry. Whether that or not, cant u see he only wants sex from u? After that happens then he'll move on without u.



whooo:
Posted by whooo | June 8, 2009 4:31 PM

ONE TING IF HIM CAAN GET NUH VIRGIN HIM MIGHT WAAN ENTER DI ONE WAY SO WATCH OUT FI DI BWOY.
DEN AGEN MI EAR SAY VINIGA GOOD FI TIGHT UP DI TING STILL.



toni:
Posted by toni | June 8, 2009 4:45 PM

@ tacious.. weekend was awesome... lmao I have no clue dear...



meleon:
Posted by meleon | June 8, 2009 8:04 PM

@Tacious... Thanks girl di weekend was crazy, nuff run up and down ova di place like mad ants. Hope urs was good to!

@toni: Mi dear, mi have di tendency fi seh anyting weh come to mi mind...people mita nuh tek kindly to dat and hunt mi down cau mi cyaan badda widdi pretty up ting. LOLOL! Or Proppa Fix mita come seek mi out vexingly fi tek weh him wok! LOLOL!

Hail mi bredrin Proppa Fix! Mi wi gwaan b u darkside pon u column dem. Seh di tings dem weh u waan seh and cyaan seh...LOLOL!

Anyway Toni, glad di weekend di gwaan wicked fi u. Weh Nelly deh by di way? How come shi nuh drop een yet? Nelly come een wi a wait pon u!

Peace out to everyone...@Can long time nuh si.



Ranxxx:
Posted by Ranxxx | June 8, 2009 8:08 PM

she a liad and di man fi gaah Africa fi get virgin pums American and Jamaican gal dem rev out like car tire.



perry:
Posted by perry | June 8, 2009 8:14 PM

he is only interested in fu****g you then kick you to the curb virgin or no virgin so leave before you prove how dumd and easy you are



sexyllisha:
Posted by sexyllisha | June 8, 2009 8:33 PM

not much to say that has not been said toni meleon and tacious you all said it right lol dont lie pon the fron cause if the man did take it then him would know then you would be known as that liad gyal wid the big hole



Talia:
Posted by Talia | June 9, 2009 1:42 AM

tingz sticky fi yuh still enuh cah while him woulda stay wid a gyal weh have mileage pon di pumz, him prolly coulda neva stay wid a lyad still..a you one put yuh self inna dis afta yuh nuh real virgin yuh kno how man stay an you know seh him woulda waan u let it off big hole ar tight..mi neva feel sarry fi yuh again
btw,yar pumz good?? Cah di solution is to whispa fi him ear an seh sumn like "babes,yuh kno a joke me did mek wid di virgin ting..and den proceed to give dat man di hottest fukk him eva buck up pon..him woulda ovalook di likkle white lie



Ray:
Posted by Ray | June 9, 2009 3:37 AM

Lol, i'm convinced you're better than an experimental OBJECT. u dont need a prophet to tell u that u're attracted to someone who doesn't care at all about u, but only a selfish guy who want u only to fulfil his fantasy.This guy want u only for sex, after that he leaves u for the next victim.
Young girl u got to be wise---BACK OUT.



Nicky:
Posted by Nicky | June 9, 2009 3:59 AM

She says lying is a female thing...but sorry to burst her bubble, not all female lies so I really wished she wouldn't ostracise us.

Anyways, virgin or no virgin you may still be able to satisfy his fantasy. Every time my hubby n I have sex I still feel like a virgin cause it is still as tight as the day we 1st did it.

BTW, if this guy felt anything at all for you he would wait as long as it takes. Don't be fooled by his pretty face, he sounds like he's only henkering round for sex...once he gets it he may leg it and leave you hanging like dead dawg. Think about how many other girls this boy could be screwing, y he's giving ultimatum, him could even full a crablouse and STI. Sometimes, you have to play hard to get as well...easy come n easy go. This guy sounds like a waste of space, not worth your time at all.



Nelly:
Posted by Nelly | June 9, 2009 10:33 AM

@Meleon - mi deh ya mi Girl. Bwoy, the recession bug hit mi (they laid me off) so mi affi ah luk wuk. Mi good still, when one door is close another one is open.

@Toni - nuh watch a ting wey "Truth" ah sey cause him a Lie. As much as a man want the "P", most man nuh trust a woman wey give it to him right away.

Miss Young Girl - Tek it from Toni, Meleon & Tacious and the rest of the crew - mek the Bwoy gu full his fantasies somewhere else.



toni:
Posted by toni | June 9, 2009 11:20 AM

@ Nelly, lawd mi sorry fi hear that, where there is life there's still hope... So keep the faith you will find something soon
Who business with 'UNTRUTH'? Mi done say a idiot!..



Nelly:
Posted by Nelly | June 9, 2009 12:04 PM

@Toni - Thanks girl, a dem positive vibes deh mi ah work wid.



Soljie:
Posted by Soljie | June 9, 2009 12:26 PM

I bet you are one of those 19 yo that has been f**kin from you ah 14 or less and you know yuh hole big you fraid di man naw guh feel nuh tightness.you lie pon di p*ssy once yuh aguh lie again.



Anonymous:
Posted by Anonymous | June 9, 2009 1:05 PM

so what mek him gone go look if him fantasy it may be hard but may be him want a virgin not u



meleon:
Posted by meleon | June 9, 2009 2:16 PM

@Nelly...Girl mi sarry fi hear! Hang in there mi chile. As u seh when one door shet anadda one open, but if u can open anadda one fi uself, dat even betta.

Girl, if u have any likkle hobbies explore di possibiliites that it can b a cash cow fi u. Siddung when u feel di vibe and write down anything what u know u can do and weh u like fi do. Then do a real-time rating, mi mean sitten like a feasability study on each a dem. Nuh matter how offbeat it mite look to u, rate it...Who to tell, it might b di ting weh mek u will nevva haffi wok fi nuh baddy again!

Memba dis...out a every recession, always emerge a millionaire...find sitten weh fit di niche and run wid it girl...can't find nuh wok...mek up u own. If u hah nuh problem comming link me at meleon@rocketmail...mi wi gi u some pointers zeen. Tek care mi chile!



SHORTY:
Posted by SHORTY | June 9, 2009 7:58 PM

ALL HAIL TONI

LISTEN LEAVE DI MAN. P*SSY NO FI SELL ,LIKE MY BOYFRIEND KARTEL SEH B*DDY NO COM FREE P*SSY NUH FI SELL.

ALL MI HAFFI SEH CHICKEN MERRY HART DEH NEAR

AND IF U NUH WAAN LEFF HIM F8*K YOU AND UR MAN

PEACE OUT BIG DUTTY LIAR


HAIL UP TONI.SHORTY SEH SUH



toni:
Posted by toni | June 9, 2009 9:21 PM

@ shorty... bless up to you too dear..



Tacious is a GOOD LOOK:
Posted by Tacious is a GOOD LOOK | June 9, 2009 11:05 PM

@ Nelly, better days ahead, girl! Keep your head up darling :)

Meleon, great advice :)



Empress iARTA:
Posted by Empress iARTA | June 10, 2009 12:34 AM

likkle girlllll hope yah READ N UNDERSTAND wah dem a tell yuh.



Nelly:
Posted by Nelly | June 10, 2009 5:12 PM

@Meleon @Tacious - Thank you Both.



str8up:
Posted by str8up | June 11, 2009 7:57 PM

@Truth. As a man mi c wah u a say.woman think them a fool anybody with the wait thing. most time it backfire, cause you piss off waiting u liable fi cut as it run.Then a she build her heart up fi months,who gaine then.Life is like a box a chocolate you never know.



Posted by SHANIPOOH | June 13, 2009 3:09 PM

WHAT A RIP OFF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



sandee:
Posted by sandee | June 13, 2009 8:21 PM

You guys all have some good advice but the child sound as if she already have her mind made up, she just wanted some attention. We can all give her as much advice but it seems to me that at the end of the day she already know what she want! Thats just my opinion! Here is some real advice: Everybody know bout di game but a nuh every body can play it! See it deh yuh guh try it an lose!



Now... Point No Fingers:
Posted by Now... Point No Fingers | June 14, 2009 7:38 AM

Any woman who believes that a man who is pursuing her and his blood pumps into his pelvis is and he does not want sex is in a naive place called "lieing to myself." Every man wants to have sex with gorgeous women. Another truth is, every woman wants sex also. Women should not try to put down a man for wanting to get some. Still a man should not cheapen a woman in the process of pursuing her.

Question for the ladies who though. Would you like to be called a prostitute because your emphasis is on a man's money and not the man himself? The way I see it men value women far more than women value themselves and value men. A man will spend his money with her treat her good and not get into her panties and she calls him a fool and gives that money to another man who treats her like trash. I have often questioned why does a man have to pay for sex most times? A woman will see a man she likes and decides to sleep with him while both of them have their partners. Her partner is taking care of her and she is working, yet she wants "pay" for her sexual favours while she is getting orgasms. What is that? May we label that prostitution? I won't, but I question the values of women who just see money and not the man. I have seen women in here taking that stance. A man should spend on his woman. That is a given. Still some a unu woman a move too hard, too cold. That is why so many of you are getting used and end up feeling hollow and afraid to look in the mirror. A real man loves women and will go to the end of the earth for a good woman whether or not sex is involved.

The issue here is not the man's money. I believe that the young lady wants to have sex with this man that she thinks she loves. The value system surrounding sex has long ago gone from formal courting and waiting for the right moment with the right person and it did not get there overnight. So don't start getting self righteous in here ladies because you want sex as much as and sometimes more that the man does. The difference is that too many of you put a price on it like a product Made in China with cheap labour.

Dear "Lied" if you read this please know that you are perfect even though your hymen has been broken and your urges to have sex especially with a man who treats you like a lady are natural. They were given to you by God. Please remember that love is an act and not the feeling that we get from the act. The feeling is a byproduct. The first act of love must be with yourself. If and when you do have sex remember to use a condom and get your orgasms. As a Christian I would suggest that you pray about it.



Now... Point No Fingers:
Posted by Now... Point No Fingers | June 14, 2009 8:06 AM

I have been living with my woman for ten years. We started rolling in the hay in less than a month. I know more relationships like that. They are the exception I'll admit. Still, I say that to say that there can be sex at first sight that leads to a lifelong relationship. Wrap it up! AIDS not being made redundant roun here.

Toni and Meleon you are hilarious. Love the fiestiness. A woman should be opinionated, independent and strong.



Kristee:
Posted by Kristee | June 29, 2009 1:34 AM

fyi, miss thing, lying is not a female thing... its a u an the other ppl who do it thing... including me sometimes of course, but a mean lying about being a virgin, thats just dumb.



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