Dear Mr Proppafix
My man slept with my mum by accident. He claims it is an accident and my mum never really knew he was my boyfriend although it seems she suspected it a bit because she asked me about him before and if we've done anything. I never really told her about my boyfriends because she could use it against me later and say stuff. I'm highly pissed off! I came in the house and heard them in her bedroom together and now I don't know what to do. I'm confused, should I leave the one I love and what about my mum? Should I forgive her?
She's married but has been cheating on my father for awhile now but being a loyal daughter I kept my mouth shut for awhile but once I told my daddy she's been upset at me ever since even had the nerve to say " She wish she never had me."
Help me out I'm in need of some REAL advice because I've been with my man since 2006 and I plan for him to be my husband in the near future. He claims he loves me and is very sorry but if he did this imagine what he does behind my back .I just am in need of some advice on what should I do in this situation.
Dear Spanish Jamaican,
Hearing about this situation really made me wonder about the total disregard that some people have for others feelings, even when they should be looking out for your best interests. Your mother is a disgrace and I am saying this not to offend you, I am saying it because it is the truth. I am particularly disappointed in her behavior as somebody who is supposed to be your provider and caregiver. What on God’s holy earth is she doing seeking a relationship outside of marriage? Judging from your letter, this is normal behavior for her. She has the audacity to bring this ‘outside man’ into her marital home- my advice is that you get this woman some help because she is sick.
Assuming that you are in your late teens, and then I would imagine that your boyfriend is around the same age, then how is it that your mother is interested in someone that could be her son?
In my opinion, your boyfriend is one of the things you need to get out of your life before the New Year rolls in. He is no good because he crossed one of the ‘uncrossable’ lines in relationships. You must never cheat – particularly with a family member of the girl you’re dating. This is the heights of disrespect and it is a clear indication that he doesn’t love you at all. It amazes me that you are still entertaining the idea of marring him- please don’t be stupid, think wisely about that decision. Are you willing to live with someone, make love to them knowing that your mother knows them as intimately as you do?
Finally, keeping secrets for your parents is not going to help in any way. What will happen when the other parent finds out (eventually they will)? You will have to lie and deny that you knew anything about what was happening. You have some changes that you need to sort out. All the best for the New Year!
That is my advice young lady - tek it or leave it
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