Dear Mr Proppafix
My man slept with my mum by accident. He claims it is an accident and my mum never really knew he was my boyfriend although it seems she suspected it a bit because she asked me about him before and if we've done anything. I never really told her about my boyfriends because she could use it against me later and say stuff. I'm highly pissed off! I came in the house and heard them in her bedroom together and now I don't know what to do. I'm confused, should I leave the one I love and what about my mum? Should I forgive her?
She's married but has been cheating on my father for awhile now but being a loyal daughter I kept my mouth shut for awhile but once I told my daddy she's been upset at me ever since even had the nerve to say " She wish she never had me."
Help me out I'm in need of some REAL advice because I've been with my man since 2006 and I plan for him to be my husband in the near future. He claims he loves me and is very sorry but if he did this imagine what he does behind my back .I just am in need of some advice on what should I do in this situation.
Sincerely,
Spanish Jamaican
Dear Spanish Jamaican,
Hearing about this situation really made me wonder about the total disregard that some people have for others feelings, even when they should be looking out for your best interests. Your mother is a disgrace and I am saying this not to offend you, I am saying it because it is the truth. I am particularly disappointed in her behavior as somebody who is supposed to be your provider and caregiver. What on God’s holy earth is she doing seeking a relationship outside of marriage? Judging from your letter, this is normal behavior for her. She has the audacity to bring this ‘outside man’ into her marital home- my advice is that you get this woman some help because she is sick.
Assuming that you are in your late teens, and then I would imagine that your boyfriend is around the same age, then how is it that your mother is interested in someone that could be her son?
In my opinion, your boyfriend is one of the things you need to get out of your life before the New Year rolls in. He is no good because he crossed one of the ‘uncrossable’ lines in relationships. You must never cheat – particularly with a family member of the girl you’re dating. This is the heights of disrespect and it is a clear indication that he doesn’t love you at all. It amazes me that you are still entertaining the idea of marring him- please don’t be stupid, think wisely about that decision. Are you willing to live with someone, make love to them knowing that your mother knows them as intimately as you do?
Finally, keeping secrets for your parents is not going to help in any way. What will happen when the other parent finds out (eventually they will)? You will have to lie and deny that you knew anything about what was happening. You have some changes that you need to sort out. All the best for the New Year!
That is my advice young lady - tek it or leave it
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Posted on December 25, 2008 14:08
Your mother need a stick of dynamite up her rear end
Posted on December 25, 2008 17:13
R*ss !!!!
Seriously, I don't even know what to tell you other than you gotta leave that man
A mother and A Daughter should neva know what one man d*ck feel like
Posted on December 25, 2008 18:02
MERRY CHRISTMAS OUTAROAD! :)
Proppafix you held it down on this one.
Good advice!
Still to address Spanish Jamaica, my advice to is simply this: No man should ever EVERRRRR IN LIFE have sex with his girlfriends mom. That is disgusting, disrespectful and downright DIRTY! If a man really loves you he'd know the difference between you and your mom!
He's a lame dude and you need to drop him QUICK.
Anyways your mom needs to sew up her loose p*ssy and realize she aint 19 anymore and a horny granny is NOT a good look.
Posted on December 25, 2008 19:04
girlfriend first of all i know you're hurting right now but as we all know love hurts.But dats your mother the only one you got and the only one u can ever get no one can replace her in your life and if u lose her u will regret it later on in life. it will take time for u to get over it yes, but eventually u will need to forgive her. As for your boyfriend u could also forgive him but that's a decision u gotta make reason for this u will always be insecure because the main fact that he cheated with your mother he will cheat again so thats something u gotta take care of, and even if he change u always gonna think he's cheating take it from me i'm speaking on that part from experience. But babe i feel for u and i hope your broken heart gets healed.
Posted on December 25, 2008 19:30
how do you accidentally sleep with someone. Was he drunk. Or he slipped on a banana peel and fell on top of that woman
Posted on December 25, 2008 20:32
What a piece a nastness... explain to me how them accidentally f**k them one another? Missy ur mother sounds like a OLD whore and it was no mistake i think she meant to do it... she saw young skin and har old tired body catch a fire... Your so-called boyfriend is nothing but an old dog.. want both mother and r*ss daughter.. lol.... my girl is ur mother but u have to start keeping ur men far away cause she seem like u father nah handle it right and she looking for a properfix.. As fi u nasty man run him... tell him fi tek a hike.. no tek no man u mother f**k and them things deh... that sound like some jerry springer shit!
HAPPY HOLIDAYS TO ALL MY OUTAROAD PEEPS...
Posted on December 25, 2008 21:28
i really cant understand that how does ur man get in bed with ur mom by accident thats totally bull shit a sumthing uno practise nasty rasssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss
Posted on December 26, 2008 08:12
I see Jezzibell is alive and kicking!
ProppaFix a wah kine a ting dis u present wi wid pon dis Chrismuss day yah though eeenh?
Mi aggo add a likkle ting to u ansa because mi agree wid u 100% and then some.
SJ: Get rid a dat dutty, naasty, slimy, jayze-yez bwoy outa u life! Perish di thought of marrying him, him is nutten but a FAMILY RAM! Unless shi did drug him, nuh accident nevva happen dessuh!.
As fi u mumma now, shi is Jrankro Soupmeat ownself! (Sarry fi diss u Mom but shi don't impress mi!) Shi nuh have nutten bout ar! But unfortunately u affi live wid ar and mi can undastand di love weh u have fi ar! A yuh madda! Di woman who has comforted u, and nurtured u throughout u life. Through dat, mi naa go diss ar up too much because mi know mi words will hurt u more than help in dis case.
But know dis, shi is no example fi live by. Forgive her? Yes. Forget? No. Yuh not in no independent position from weh mi pickout from u letter. Suh u affi tread softely and try put it behind u. Di ting to do though is undastan seh u madda have "drop drawz syndrome" and nuh man u talk to must b trusted around ar. Tek u time stay pon crooked and cut straight yaah mi dear, as soon as u have u independence u cut. Den time deh u can love ar, but do suh from a distance. Yuh father will eventually find ar out. Lets hope fi ur sake him nuh kill ar claat when him ketch ar red handed!
BIGGUP EVERY ONE FROM OUTAROAD! KEEP ENJOYING DI SEASON.
Posted on December 26, 2008 14:16
I told u i was sorry and that it was a MISTAKE so why u still send this letter to this propa trix brother, damn woman, now its me who cant 4give u!!! lol
Posted on December 26, 2008 22:44
@sooo sorry!! are you REALLY the fool who slept with her mom??
If so, I'd like to know what the hell is wrong with you? Were you drunk? And how did you know that your girlfriend even WROTE to Proppa fix???
Posted on December 27, 2008 05:06
okay this dont make no damn sense what kinda careless mumma you have my girl and on top of it is not like she nuh have nobody she married to your dad at that i feel sorry for your father in all of this cause she doing stuff like this on a regular you need to stay away from her try to get ahead in life cause she seem to be the type that would want to see you fail in you goals also get rid a di man you young you can find someone else cause trust me if him juk off you mother you might come catch him a do your cousin next no joke god only knows who else in the family he do at this point i am at a loss for words im out
Posted on December 27, 2008 09:22
shr know is your fucking man why she ask if u slept with hm already she is just a whore u should tell your father about her so u dated this man for 2 yrs and your moter do not know this man shame on u to so u are going to make it up with him he did it with your mother he will do it with some
one else to he will always cheating on u
Posted on December 27, 2008 11:31
mi and my father f**k the same woman so i guess its ok for you to do the same and f**k your daughter man.let f**k be free.free up.
Posted on December 27, 2008 23:02
EWWW @ Daynedayne
you should've just kept that to your damn self!
Posted on December 29, 2008 09:38
Daynedayne, you is a nasty sh*t house, that's not even cute, anyways johncrow a johncrow, cant expect nothing better. If you and your father f**k the same woman, you woulda f**k your friend woman. As for that woman she is a dumb B*t*h. She has NO CLASS, she's HOE!!! HOE,HOE, MERRY CHRISTMAS!
Posted on December 30, 2008 12:13
Woman, what the hell u on yah a talk bout u want him to be ur husband bout. Did u not say he f**ked ur mother. Am I missing something here? Is a tree growing in ur face, cuz mi si some ugly gyal get good good man, so I know every hoe have dem stick a bush. Why on God's green earth would u want to stay with a man that slept with ur mother. That's just nasty on ur part (eew). Sometimes I can really can sympathize with some of the persons who write to Mr. Proppa Fix, but come on do u really, in your hearts of hearts, believe the man f**k yuh madda by 'accident'. Did he every f**k u by 'accident' dear? Mi deh a Canada wid mi family sans mi hussy an mi cold & horny bad - maybe I should f**k somebody by accident (just to warm me up) & see what mi hussy going seh/do when I tell him it was just by accident, cuz mi know divorce proceeding woulda start tek place. No man nah stay wid yuh if yuh sleep wid another man by 'accident' so wise up b*tch!
If not u can take my 2nd advise, which is - yeah man, marry him so him can continue f**king ur wh*re mother!
Have a Happy & Prosperous New Year Outaroad ppl.
Posted on December 30, 2008 14:17
I can't believe what I'm reading. Can your mother be that low and your Ex boyfriend be even lower? Please young lady, don't even let the thought cross your mind about carry on a relationship with this guy. I can guarantee that it will only get worse. Your mother is a hoe, she a hoe, come even one, sing the song with me. Good luck young lady and keep your head up.
Posted on December 30, 2008 14:41
Mi deh a Canada wid mi family sans mi hussy an mi cold & horny bad
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PREACH!! lol
Happy New Year to you too =)
Posted on December 30, 2008 15:46
My girl u more need to take a reality check on yourself, she's nothing but a wh*re, she's has no pride and respect for yourself. I can feel your pain and headache. U need to end this relationship right away, cause if he sleep with ur mom, trust me he will do it with any other of ur family. Ur mom is a burning disgarce
Posted on January 1, 2009 15:46
dayne dayne, Im not too too into the bible, its flawed and canNOT be from God..Im not debating that with anyone, anyone dumb enough to not understand what im saying is, by definition, too dumb to enter debate, but im saying--what you said doesnt apply
Leveticus 18:17
'Do not have sexual relations with both a woman and her daughter. That is wickedness.'
Unless you not Xtian in which case, go on with what you doing if it suits you..my father can NEVER touch a girl im with.