
Dear Mr. Proppafix,
I am an 18-year-old student living in east Kingston. I attend a prominent high school and I am doing fairly well in school. I met a 38-year-old married man almost a year now who I became involved with. He is a very nice person who wants the best for me. We share many things in common and it’s like I can’t do without him. I also can’t complain about the sex which is very good because he knows his stuff.
In June I went to Barbados for 3 months and came back in September, however when I was there I cheated on him which was not suppose to happen. It was once and I told him about it and he claimed to have forgiven me. I didn’t believe this, because in late September his calls were minimized and then the next thing I know he was telling me I am on a time out. I was really pissed during my time out I started talking to someone - he had the audacity to ask if he gave me permission to do so!
It’s like I am living on the edge where he is concerned because the other day I was by his house and when he was driving out his wife was going home and I nearly get my a*s whooped. If I mention to him that he is using me, he will get upset. I honestly don’t want to leave him because he is like a best friend to me I tell him everything and he is always there for me.
He also has a child not with his wife and he doesn’t want one with his wife neither sometimes I have to wonder if he is gay because he doesn’t want to have any children with his wife. Not even with me because I don’t want a bastard child if I let him get me pregnant. Things are so complicated of late, I don’t know what to do things are not the same, and I feel like I am holding on to someone that is not there. He is a November man who loves sex to the max, I don’t even trust him. Sometimes I feel like when his wife is at work he brings in other women and when I call, he tells me he is sleeping because I see him do it when we are together. I really don’t know what to do.
Dear Worried Teen,
Young lady where did you find the guts to get yourself involved with a man that could possibly be your “grandfather”? Then you are going to question if he’s taking home other women when his wife is not at home, and how long is it going to take you to realize that you are also one of those women he takes home while his wife is at work?
There is no way you could be living under the supervision of an adult.
I will never encourage a young girl or any women to be in a relationship with a married man because in most cases the man is just using the woman for sexual pleasure and nothing else. Even if this man has expressed a desire to be with you and possibly leave his wife, he is probably telling you that to keep you at his convenience. Do you think that he would really want to loose his wife over an 18-year-old child? At this stage in your life, do you really think that you have anything to offer him?
I think that you need to take a reality check and end this ridiculous (Could be your father) relationship that will ultimately end in you being hurt emotionally or even worse pregnant. This situation is bigger than you - literally-if you choose not to take this advice please remember to protect yourself when having sex with him. From what you have written in your letter, it seems that he possibly has other women and if he is not using protection with you, he could be doing it with anybody else.
That is my advice young lady - tek it or leave it
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Posted on December 8, 2008 07:56
Welcome back Mr. ProppaFix! Mi cant spear too much pleasantries cause mi waan address dis likkle naasy gyal yah!
Likkle homewrecka, puss mussi bruck coc'nut inna yuh yeye....what a way u bearface and dry yeye! Bout yuh a write Proppafix fi advice on kipping people husban! Likkle gyal, yuh read u letta before u send it to ProppaFix dwoh? Fi smaddy weh seh u inna "prominent" high-school yuh gramma bad fi true! Yuh si when u fi a tek een u lesson u a concentrate pan di ooman husban h**d!
If him a kip anadda ooman, who are u to complain dwoh? Afta yuh nuh name wife! Yuh bright up u likkle dutty self deh all addi ooman yaad when shi nuh deh deh? A waan di ooman ketch yuh and cow-itch u raas den yuh wi learn yuh lesson!
Fi ansa yuh question: Yes him a use yuh! Him just have u fi knock him h**d pon like di dyam piss-pot yuh is, den shake if off and gaan again! Yuh is nutten to him but a public convenience. Yuh feel big because him carry yuh a him yaad, anyman weh nuh respect dem wife and matrimonial home certainly naa go respect u either. Yuffi use sleep and mark death, yuh likkle skettel! Yuh have sense fi open yuh foot fi him and nuh have sense fi reason out di situation by uself? U come a write proppafix a look advice yuh likke dunce-bat!
As mi read how yuh write mi know weh yuh walk wid u p*ssy pon yuh forehead because just 3months u come a Barbados and come f**k wid man arredy! Naastiniss u know seh ova yah full a AIDS? Up to weh day dem a try find 800 weh do AIDS test and it come back positive and dem missen-up. Jrankro a hope u nuh carry-back none go gi di man fi gi him wife innuh.
Likkle Gyal tek yuh p*ssy from outa yuh forehead and put it back unda yuh weh di Lord did mean it fi be and go tekup yuh raas book and learn fi read and write! Leff di ooman husband alone and find a man fi yuhself. Dat a if yuh p*ssy aggo have nuh use to yuh again because some a unnuh young gyal f**k suh much dat by di time unnuh reach di ripe old age of 20 unnuh hole done big like di Golf a Mexico and man a disappear inna it like di Bermuda Triangle!
By di way, weh yuh keepers dem deh ole leggo beast??? Dem mussi nuh si seh yuh need fi chain up and cull now!
Posted on December 8, 2008 08:09
this letter got grammatical errors. that girl head really ain good and young in mind not even proper English
Posted on December 8, 2008 08:41
What's up with all these girls dealing with married men? I'd really like to know.
Seriously, being the 'other woman' is not all that glamorous because at the end of the day, the man will choose his family and you will just have to kick rocks.
38! 38! And i LOVE how your trying to justify yourself by saying you attend a prominent high school, darling you may go to a good school but clearly you are lacking some smarts. 38! MAN! What happen to the prominent, potential young men that go to your school. Does it make you feel cool that your dating a married man? NO IT MAKES YOU LOOK STUPID, SLUTTY AND A STRAIGHT CLOWN!
This relationship seems very tit for tat, meaning he can f**k an 18 year old at his beck and call while you get emotionally stressed.
Are you aware that he is 20 YEARS OLDER THAN YOU??? THAT IS TWO BL**DCLAUT DECADES!!!!!
My advice to you is leave him. And think with your head not with your HORMONES.
Posted on December 8, 2008 08:50
Yeah first we haffi big up east, from central to harbour view. Big meadows and di great old harbour and farm clarendon. Yes yes. B!y girl I hope wat Mr Propa said permeate into ur brain, so that u can propel ur self away from destructive men, and become more pragmatic about your goals in life, so that u can achieve good fo urself. It is implicit that married man never leaves his wife; because I'm an advocate for young ppl pliftment ( especially young woman); I will assiduously expose the dogma of married man towards young woman. Even if I have to impose my LoL LOL mek me stop. Yo Propa run weh di ikkle idiot gal nuh man, yo di gal kno sey di man naw leff him wife, and nothing nuh wrong wid dat, but di problem is she a come act like goodas afta she go give weh di pum pum, within the space of 3months she give it weh.it deems like She only a look fi financial help, weh u nuh go f**k spragga or lexux dem live a east. Lol yo in di first place she don't care she him married and him don't promise to leave him wife. Yo di man a idiot fi a bring bit#h guh a him yaad, weh him live wid him wife and a disrespect har, if nuh body fi get sympathy a di wife.
Posted on December 8, 2008 09:27
you a hoe idiot
Posted on December 8, 2008 10:10
The both of your deserve each other. You a Ho and he's a dog. Nuff said.
Posted on December 8, 2008 11:16
The two a uno slack and nasty... u deh way u suppose to deh cause he's a DOG and a dog needs a B*tch and that's u... u f**king bright and bear face bout u inna the woman house... a shoulda me and me come catch u mattress self inna mi Good house, a woulda beat u r*ss with mi shoes heel.... f**king little jezbel....
Posted on December 8, 2008 11:52
It is best if you just leave the bastard. I was in a relationship with a married man before even though i know it was not right i still went into it. The sex and all was good but it was still wrong. I eventually ended things with him and now today he is like a brother to me we talk about any and everything. He also gives me advice about getting into a relationship with another guy.
Just leave the man you will find somebody who will appreciated you for what you are. If you really look at it in the end it is still going be his wife and not you. You please i beg you please find the courage and leave his ass.
Posted on December 8, 2008 12:02
Why mi name come up anonymous? Outaroad watz da deal wid dat and why my writin jump around like dat? Fix di ting. Yo mellon mi wah to visit Barbados in April, where would be tha best place to go for night life?
Posted on December 8, 2008 12:08
It seems this likkle dutty gyal want some financial help. Which man a guh leave dem wife fi tramp ? The poor wife shoulda know dis and divorce di man. And worst off shi f*k pon him a Barbados , dat p*sy deh must BIGGGGGGGGGG !
Likkle gyal find ya self a guy ya age or a guy weh love ya stop look married man dem just want pum pum and head from ya dats it. Den when ya salt dun and dry out dem left ya and pick up wah next young dutty gyal again.
Dis gyal a shame to Jamaican Females and Females world wide ! If this guy wasen't married the story wouldn't suh bad but him married so it badddd and worst of all shi cheat wid wah next man. She musi a try f*k all di man dem ina di Caribbean from Jamaica to Barbados to e wul a dem.
Dis story piss mi off a likkle cause Jamaican girls better than that but this girl just a bring shame. Lef di married man dem ALONE ! Dem nuh want ya !!
An a suh mi seh,
MS KAWAII
Posted on December 8, 2008 12:08
Laud what a dutty johncrow this is eeen man! An den she so r*ss brite a write bout de woman husband. Then de ole dog**it husband him so wicked fe carry this crichole go a the woman yaad. Sometimes wen some things tek some man people nuh fe feel sorry fe dem cause of stories like this. Licckle gal wah happen to teenage boys, wah is a money ting? I wish de woman did catch u an buss up u dumb *ss an den u would know.
Bwoy Meleon u comments den eva sell off and mek me affi lauff to hell and u surely give it to this nasty gal fe real a hope de johncrow read it.
Posted on December 8, 2008 12:30
YOUR SUCH A STUPID,NAIVE LITTLE BI*CH FOR EVEN THINKING THAT THE MAN WOULD WANT YOU.HE HAS IS WIFE EVEN THOUGH THEY MIGHT BE GOING THROUGH A ROUGH PATCH IN THEIR LIFE IT DOESN'T GIVE U ANY REASON TO BE MESSING AROUND WITH HIM AND AS FOR HIM HE'S SUCH A LOSER FOR TREATING HIS WIFE LIKE THAT AND HAVING SL*TS LIKE YOURSELF IN HER BED.HE WILL NEVER LEAVE HER FOR YOU NEVER REMEMBER THAT BECAUSE FIRST OF ALL HE KNOWS THAT YOUR A H*E AND THATS NOT WHO HE WANTS FOR A WIFE I BET THAT HE'S NEVER EATEN FROM U BEFORE THERE'S A REASON FOR THAT YOU BIG HOLE BI*CH.
Posted on December 8, 2008 13:00
DUTTY WH*RIN GYAL STOP F**K DI PPL DEM HUSBAND AN GO A SCHOOL , SHE COULDA ALL F**K HAR TEACHER DEM 2 JONCROW!!!
Posted on December 8, 2008 13:42
My girl, yu young and naive, and this situation ur in, is big people tings. The man is a "big man" and ur still a teenager. Just concentrate on ur education and ur future. Tek man off yu mind and just deal wid school fully, respect and talk to yu parent(s) at all times. One day u will finish school with a career and become a more mature adult, at that point you will be a woman and yu can f**k anyone yu wish without any such complaints...One last time, what happen, happen a ready, soh from this day on just put school on yu mind and hold up yu head....Write back a year from now and tell wi how tings a goh...Good luck..
Posted on December 8, 2008 14:14
HIS WIFE SHOULD HAVE BUSS U A*S WHEN SHE CAUGHT U AT HER HOUSE...... U ARE SUCH A WORM.WHY U YOUNG GIRLS SO MESSED UP FOOLING AROUND WITH MARRIED MEN,WHY CAN'T U ALL LOOK A MAN FOR URSELVES AND LEAVE PEOPLE MAN ALONE.
Posted on December 8, 2008 15:08
bwoyyyyy tears cum a mi eyes when i read both the article and yall comments. i dnt understand adults today they act as if they werent silly little naive kids too. yes shes a dumb a*s but shes also young all those names and rudeness is not going to help her any better . tell her to wisen up be independent and that that man is worthless instead of slandering her. and i know sum of u r mothers i mean wud u tlk to ur daughter or neice like that aNd dnt even think they wudnt pull a stunt like this cuz the best people to hold secrets are TEENS.
AS FOR THE GIRL if he wanted best for you he wud allow to to complete ur studies instead of bouncin u around u make it look as if its his fault judging by ur stupidity u leave him no choice but to use u. u just met him u realy think he's gonna leave his wife for a school girl i mean look hes gonna have to take care of home and mind u at the same time. date guys ur age and have fun and i know u not gonna leave overngt but i hope a year r couple mths fron now ull b riting that ur new n imporoved c'mon sweetie dnt be so dumb not in this wrld tday
Posted on December 8, 2008 15:39
yea first of all i want to big up Meleon, your comment them always real, and always make me laugh. I dont need to comment on nothing because enough has been said by Mr. Proper fix and the Readers. Mi only ago say this when mi start read that letter mi no know when fi stop, or when fi pause. She could not be no high school student, and next thing the man a give you time out, are you a kid or this relationship is just a freeky game?
Posted on December 8, 2008 15:46
this girl is ah fu**kin ediot. dats all mi ave fi seh
Posted on December 8, 2008 15:49
I can't believe the girl doesn't realise she is getting used for one thing only and that is her sweet young p*ssy! Thats just the way life is sometimes, she is just young, stupid and naive!
Posted on December 8, 2008 17:03
@Meleon - mind u mek mi loose di little wuk(my job) enu....mi ah ded wid laugh. mi cant wuk nuh more fi di day, mek mi gu read u comments again....LOL..
Anyway, the only thing i will add is that, let us keep in mind that She is Young. Older man do have a way fi come at young girls Hard (money, clothes, pampering etc etc etc) so she was sucked in...cause we can all see that by her letter she nuh have har head pon har body. My girl, call this experience and just refocus pon yr school work and Leave this Man.
Posted on December 8, 2008 19:52
@BOSTON_LUCKY_KILLAH: Yes star, St. Lawrence Gap and Oistins on a Frideh nite, also Club Extreme is another hot-spot. Di beach dem irie fi cool out pon inna di day. Harrison's Cave is another place for site-seeing inna di day to. Hopefully inna April when u come, activities will be going on because othewise Barbados boring nuh raas! Cant seh much fi dem food but yuh can try it fiddi experience just don't expect Jamaican niceness wid dem dishes. Mek sure u walk wid u Pepto! Hope yuh enjoy u stay.
@ Nelly, Diomondeyes: biggup unnuhselves. Yow Tacious yuh large.
Posted on December 9, 2008 00:17
Meleon i'm cryin with laughter right now lmao oh my goshh
Posted on December 9, 2008 00:19
@ Anonymous
Thank you =)
respect!
Posted on December 9, 2008 05:54
Yow Outaroad, a two claat unnuh waan mi tell unnuh inna di mawning yah???? How unnuh fi come put mi down as Anonymous? Unnuh hear seh mi a hid and lick star? Just dress up di ting properly and mek mi breddrin dem know seh Meleon a hail dem up! Chuh!
Meleon
Posted on December 9, 2008 09:58
Ohhh ah wen yuh Meleon!! My girl you get hail up same way, darling!
Posted on December 9, 2008 10:14
big up 2 meleon,,,u neva find nottin betta fi sey bout da dutty gal deh,,,,di likkle big p*ssy b*tch..
likkle nassi gal,,,u neva kno sey di man a bastard,,wen u open out yo dutty ole 'n gi him... all u need iz sumady fi tek 1 pon a jumma roach and dash inna yo p*ssy 'n bung it up...
'n how di rass di man a gay,,,'n him a f*ck out yo dunn ole....di woman shoulda kno,,,'n obea yo stink rass....yo si if u weh deh a mobay,,,'n tek a gal man,,yo get f*ck,,,lick woulda sick yo,,,,,,,,,memba mi tell yo dat,,,,
hear ma sey,,,don't f*ck fi a year,,,'n mek di cratchis kinna get tight up back...den yo get a man yo age...all doh mi no feel sey a year cah do,,,,tek 2yr instead...
until then,,,i hope ur taking proppa fix's advice
Posted on December 9, 2008 10:32
My girl u too young fe a gwan wid them them things dey. u inna too much haste, u need fe slow down. The people them a give it to u,bwoy! So there is no reason for me to pile on.You probably feel like you are an adult because you abviously doing adult things, you are at the age of consent but you are not acting with sense of an adult. Although truth be told when it come to sex most Grown ups nuh have any sense either. Still you are wrong and you could be dead wrong also. Use your brains if you a go give away the thing don't go a the marriage yard. Man ago always want more than one gal, while most women want one man, as long as him a do Her right. So it was in the beginning so shall it be to the end. Western livity mek man and woman have to hide and seek. Maybe if a man is allowed fe have one or more woman, and the woman is allow fe agree or disagree we wouldn't have so much hide and seek, infedelity, hurt and pain. But the way the thing set up these things are not going to stop, it the nature of the beast. Nuh matter wey nubody a say, we come see it and we a go dead left it same way, a the nature a man,always seeking some kind of satisfaction, and that is the truth. Thats the way we were wired.
Posted on December 9, 2008 10:42
@Anonymous.. i agree with u. we were all young, so people, take time with her she young; we are suppose to respect her for writing the letter, that means she want help..
my girl just leave the woman husband alone and get a boy your age..
Posted on December 9, 2008 11:14
GIRL!!!!! WTF is wrong with you. You're only 18 and u already bedding a married man. Tell what could u possibly achieve from this and u don't even have a single subject yet. Ure giving more thought and energy to a sex crazed maniac than to ur very own future. Whats the point in goin to skool when ure already on the course to being a prostitute.
U r just misguided stop screwing every man thats ever been nice to you. They are only exploiting your ignorance.
Posted on December 9, 2008 12:33
My girl u rong fi a concern bout nex woman cuz a trespass yuh a trespass yuh zimmy.
Mi understand what luv is to u still cuz mi hav mi woman an trespassers still a create big trouble.
But those things don't waste time put them outaroad cuz hotter comment than urs out deh waitin.
Nuh listen to wah people a she cuz sum a dem a fuck nuff man an a sen comments fi yuh. U maybe a f**k di married man alone an a jealous gal jus f**k who yuh waah f**k a fi yuh bubal just protect urself.
Posted on December 9, 2008 13:29
TANK MELEON.....NUFF RESPECT........YO A WEH GRYNA DEH
Posted on December 9, 2008 13:44
I'm not going to be rude and call her names because there are A LOT of people out there doing the same thing. No one is perfect! It's amazing how people rather raise up to call her nasty than to help her find a solution. Most of us have either been in love or infatuated with someone and find ourselves hurting at least one time in our lives. It takes two to be a home wrecker. That man made vows not the 18 year old, and who knows if she has father syndrome issues. Maybe she could have grown up without her daddy so she finds comfort in having an older man around who may seem successful/disciplinary/role model in some way.
Miss 18 year old need to start looking within at what your worth. Focus on building your self esteem. Those who are tearing you down may be the ones who see themselves within you as to why they could be writing such hateful things. Don't absorb that stuff. When you find yourself worrying about him look within to find solutions. Meaning, start talking to other guys your own age, keep busy, read books, watch videos about self esteem on youtube anything to demand more for yourself. He's not the type of man you deserve. It hurts now, but you don't want to create a pattern in your life of finding men like this. Demand more of yourself....Your beautiful!!
Posted on December 9, 2008 14:45
MY GIRL UR AN A** IF YOU THINK THAT MAN WANT YOU, AND FUTHER MORE YOU DON'T HEAR SAY YOUNG GAL NUFFI FRIGG ROUND WID OL MAN. . . DEM WI GI YUH WORMS!!!!!! JACKASS.
Posted on December 9, 2008 18:50
Mi just know u is a full pledge b*tty man.. how fi a man u love concern u self with woman business so... how u know who a f**k who .. u too f**king nuff man..... u shoulda shame u old dunce u!
Posted on December 9, 2008 22:21
Nobody knows what the man wants but he and God! There's something called divorce, he could divorce the wife, or maybe the wife is the one supporting him financially so that's why he's still holding on. Don't get me wrong am not saying adultery is ok but there's alot of things u can pick up from this. i don't see why when there's so many young good looking men out there you have to be with a "married' man. But I wish the wife would find out and leave his *ss and then u'll write back to mr. propafix and tell us if he still got it like that. 'Cause I guess the only reason u can have for being 18 with a 38yr old (although pple claims age is just a number) MARRIED man must be him a spen good money on u. And by the way don't anyone in the community see u with this man so they can point u out to his with or set up a scence so she catch u in her house and disfigure some part of your body so u'll remember is your sins following u?
Yes you say he dosen't want a child with his wife but, are u sure that's what's up? Have you ever thouht maybe she's the one who don't want to have a child for him till he can behave, or maybe she's barren so he uses that to fool u and the other tramps he can wuk for a small price?
I really don't kow what's wrong with some of "us" yes u read right us young ladies. I'm not saying a man never took advantage of me but when you see the light which I know you did-cause you were the author of the above letter you go towards it, not back into the dark tunnel...............So whoever you are, before the man's wife dis-figures your face with some acid or expose you to your community for the home wrecking you letting everyone know you are on outaroad (isn't it funny u really put ur biz out-a-road)..............
Left the dam woman husband unless he brings you those documents of Proof he's divorced and don't encourage it cause you'll be committing adultery as long as u're with him. Cause in the eyes of God once your spouse will forever be your spouse until one dies. Then the other is free again so the best advice is leave and don't walk run like you maddddddddddddddddddd.
Posted on December 10, 2008 04:28
Respect Meleon.A true dat weh yah say.Dis a jus a likkle lost girl who needs to come to terms with reality an wake up.Am wondering weh she a take them whole trailer load-a-guts fi send di letter dem.Jah a gwine take care a di res.Jah guide.
Posted on December 10, 2008 12:17
Did this girl said she was doing well in school? Her grammar is so poor! U too dunce fi me waste my time a give solid advise to. Gwan f**k di married man til him breed u an lef u, cuz u done seh u nuh waan lef him, so mi nuh know weh u a write to Mr. Proppa Fix fah. Next dumb-a*s letter please!
Posted on December 10, 2008 14:42
I hope she get some rahs lick from the wife. How you get them is how you keep them b*tch!
Posted on December 11, 2008 07:07
a just life, everybody makes mistake but can learn from it. this girl make a very big 1, an hope she take all these comment in her brain and do the right thing.
Posted on December 12, 2008 21:23
Miss Ting........ Just because you 18 dont mean you can go off with a 38 year old man... And u said u knew him over a year.. his ass should be in prison.. As for you, leave him alone.... Your too young to get youself in a relationship, get an education and forget sex, girl use your fingers or buy a dildo!!!!!!!!!!!!! If you loved this guy... you would have never slept with the Bajan man... and Young Beauty, leave this older man alone,he only wants you for your pum pum ok thats its.. The mind of and 18 year old and 38 year old are totally different... Girlfriend Have respect for yourself and get your education and leave these men alone... if ok to have a boyfirend but make sure he's there for you and not your Sexual desires...
Posted on December 12, 2008 21:58
Look u people need to be thinking logical in whatever you are writing this girl needs help and you guys need to stop belitling her...calling her a whore n all of that aint helping sh*t she just need a lil guidance i think she is a sheltered child and maybe looking for love other than she used to dont say she go barbados go find manin 3 months and start judging her she coulda know the person loong time or was wit the person sh*t do happens n all who throwing down on her u all acting like u perfect i wish some of u will rethink ur arguments obviosly she is naive but dont be quick to judge let god be her judge ok i wish i could be this girl's fren baby girl link me at phat4eva@hotmail.com n let mi reason wid u as my lil sis hey propper please put up this comment bcuz mi wah talk to her no doubt much love