I'm not satisfied sexually or emotionally with this man
Dear Mr. Proppa Fix,
For the past 12 months, I've been with a man who's done nothing but lied to me. We hooked up about a year ago, he was just coming out of a relationship and so was I. At first, I was skeptical about him but he played his role so well that I didn’t even see it. I mean this man sold me a dream, he was different from the previous man that I was with, or so I thought. He acted nice, caring and understanding of my needs and everything. Hell he even acted as if he was financially stable which at this day and age is hard to find. We spoke about what we were getting ourselves into and I even told him that we could take things slow and there was no rush. Of course, at times he ended up accusing me of not wanting to take things seriously.
Anyway, less than 6 months into this relationship, I walked into him with another woman accidentally, but I believe that it was God's way of telling me that he was just a jerk. Of course, my initial response was to run fast the other way which I did but later I ended back with him after he apologized so much and claimed that he would not do that again (I didn’t believe him but I stayed). I'm young, financially stable, well educated with a B.A and I am currently studying my Masters Degree. I actually don't need this man to do anything for me especially after I found out that he was only a BUM with a job .He parties constantly, cannot support his self financially and whines about everything. I really don't have the time to babysit a grown man and I have had it with him.
I'm not satisfied sexually or emotionally with this man. If I stay with him, I will have to cheat and I'm not the type of woman to stray. I want to break up but the only problem is that he is a fixture in the Dancehall community and a lot of people know that we are indeed together. They will never understand my decision to break it off & will probably think I'm the "Whore" when he is the one because he portrays an image of perfection to them. How do I handle this? Your response will be kindly appreciated. Thank you.
Dear me you,
I have been searching through your letter with a fine tooth comb to find just one valid reason why you are still with this man. It seems like he is good at creating the image of being a nice successful person but with nothing to back it. On the contrary, from the information that you gave about yourself, he has more to gain from being with you than you do from being with him. If you are younger and much more ambitious than he is then he’s going to want to linger around you.
Why are you still tolerating him when you say that he is such a looser? I do not believe that relationships should be based on what a man can provide for a woman but it is important for either of you to be able to help each other if the situation arises. It seems like this man is all smoke with no fire. To make things worse, you said that he is not pleasing you sexually so what is he doing - Really?
I don’t think that you are telling me the full story because the reason that you gave to me for staying with him is insufficient. Who cares what people have to say? Is it worth tolerating a broke, old man who loves to ‘front’ as if he has money and putting yourself through all the problems?
As the preacher man would say; it’s time to get your house in order. Sort your life out and focus on your goals and for God’s sake stop wasting time with this man. I am sure you will be able to find someone much better than him.
That is my advice young- lady tek it or leave it
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Posted on October 29, 2008 09:37
And u ar writing Mr. Proppafix because????
Puppa Jeeezas bwoy! A weh some a dem ooman yah come from though eenh? Arrite my girl mek mi tell u weh fi do. Gi back di university dem B.A. and stop doing di Masters Degree. Tek di two likkle shillings weh u have and go throw dem up inna di air a Half-way-tree. People deh deh weh have betta use fi dem dan u. Yuh naa go need dem fi where u heading. When u done go stand pon di road side wid u sign weh seh: I'm a Dyam Fool!
Posted on October 29, 2008 09:45
Deedas dod(jesus god)...But what is this?Propa fix u luv di f**kery ee! lol
Mygurl I should b that man's bestfriend then I would tell u what to do,"Fling di p_ssy gimi cause mi willin fi catch it,if u dnt tell I won't tell and that's how we gonna keep it."
Mr.P u tellin the gurl she gonna find better out there but guess what mi boss,THEY STILL HAV FAULTS!
The tightest p_ssy yuh can find is a ugly gyal and sumtime dem lovin and carin but the fault is she beyound the point of ugly and it goes on and on.
So everybody got there faults mi gurl so if its gud sex u want to pull out u hair go find a stamina man and that man can b better sexually but worst in many ways...Wish u the best in ur search mi gurl...Hope u find the perfect man wha yuh want,I cud b qualified fa u but my fault iz that ma b_ddy maybe oversized!Then u gonna cum post Mr.p again sayin I fly pass u follopian tube and overtake u cervix wall...
¤Gryna¤
Posted on October 29, 2008 10:01
@gryna
U don't easy at all!dwl
Posted on October 29, 2008 10:19
My girl, u dont need to ask anyone for help in a situation like that, u just do what you have to do. Thats the only situation.
Posted on October 29, 2008 10:47
Jesus Christ!!! Why can't these whinny b*tches leave Mr. Proppa Fix to help people with actual problems? I know everybody's problem is their own, but still... is this really a problem when you state that "you don't need the man". So, whinny b*tches, I dont know if it is because I have some highly strong minded, independent women in my family & now possess those same traits why I can easily say this - but if you are with a "BUM", if you dont want to suck c*ck, if your man is f**king other men, I dont see why you need someone else to tell you to leave them. Maybe it is because you dont want to leave, so here is my suggestion - if you really know seh u nuh waan lef (which is evident with these f**kery type letters) stay and continue f**king the BUM or yuh faggot husband & mek it stress yuh out, or suck the man c*ck & shut up about. Unnu mek woman look bad. Yeah, a dat mi seh.
Posted on October 29, 2008 11:53
Bwoy without a book some people nuh have nuh sense. Lady wah kind a question that you a ask de man? Imagine how you research bout this all over before you ask Mr. Proppa fix. You nuh have common sense so it not even mek sense fe give u any suggestions. But anyway every now and then u can step away from the books and view the outside world! Try figure that one out. Damn fool!
Posted on October 29, 2008 11:55
Meleon - your response "Sell OFF" ah shoulda you them write fi Advice....you have me and a co-workers cracking up..u nuh easy at all.
Posted on October 29, 2008 14:00
dah girl yah sound like a intelligent dunce. dat a de kinda people dem weh always a boast bout how much degrees dem have and yuh mus call dem docta but dem nuh have nuh common sense. nutten outside a de book weh dem did a study
Posted on October 29, 2008 15:36
Lol @ meleon
Posted on October 29, 2008 16:26
Jus leave him
Posted on October 29, 2008 18:37
people pick sense out of nonsense, am going to tell you the real reason this girl is stuck with this poser, she is dieing for attention....its obvious she has low self-esteem issues and need this guy to validate her because he happen to be popular, i have seen it too many times. a person can have money and education but still locking that self confidence to feel powerful and beautiful so they lean towards people who make them feel special and needed even though deep down they know he are she isnt good enuff. my girl, low the poser, wannabee bwoy and find you a good man. i was with a dude that was very famous and his family was one of the most influential person in jamaica but he was broke and try to get my money to start business and i told him no.. ...so some girl like you picked him up and marry him and although the sex was good as hell i am still happy i dumped him.no man gets my money that easy...he and his sorry ass and long tongue can go. i know you might not think am right at this moment but you didnt give any reason but low self esteem reason why you with this dude. go get a life and find something to build your self esteem and wait for an ok guy to come along because there is no perfect guy anymore. build your self esteem and chill, do what i do, wait someone worthy of you will come along but remember you have to build that self esteem otherwise you will fall for the same type
Posted on October 29, 2008 20:23
I am not going to be ignorant like everyone else. I understand where you are coming from. You are not really asking how you should leave him, you want to leave him without being perceived as a whore. My only advice to you is no one can determine you self worth but you. Leave him when you are ready and do not try to let what people say affect. No matter what you do in life there will always be negative people.
Posted on October 29, 2008 20:58
I don't seem 2 see a reason 4 u being wit this man...U mention that he doesn't pleases u emotionally or sexually....so y be in a relationship where u can't acquire any personal fulfillment?
Posted on October 29, 2008 21:12
Meleon yes work with Mr. propra fix
Posted on October 29, 2008 21:59
Girl, you sound pretty damn accomplished, why give your time to a man who cant even match your standards?
You know the saying : Trick me once, shame on you, Trick me twice, shame on me?
Honestly, give cheaters NO LOVE because if he does it once, he'll do it again.
For all you know, he was out sexing some broad while you were writing your life away to Proppafix.
I'm sure that wherever you are there is alot of ambitious young men who have their life right and all they need is a woman by their side.
In short, DUMP THE ZERO AND GET YOUS A HERO!
Story done.
NEXT!
Posted on October 30, 2008 08:59
Yo my girl, mi dont see di reason why u write di man......but yo meleon and gryna always give betta advise dan mr propa. yo my girl if u love him stay, if not leave..... yo weh di dancehall have to do with ur life? yu caan alwayz brind di p&^sy cum becuase mi will wuk eh out fi you.....some man a ediot, if mi have a gal weh a tek care a mi, she will feel seh me caan mash ants..... even wen she hear seh mi wuk out di sista she wont believe.....she ago seh LUCKY! NO SAH MI NUH BELIEVE DAT, HIM LOVE MI TOO MUCH..... LOL YO some man know fi cheat, but don't know fi hide.....yo baby if u a read dis,mi just a mek a statement, i'm nothing like dat.
Posted on October 30, 2008 09:03
HA, HA, HA,
GOOD MORNING TO MY BABY GRYNA & u 2 MAMALASTBOY
i dont know where to start, "this beats the odds"
i know she know what to do;
so i dont see ur point of witting
she is smart got her g
points out all the point why
her man is a failure, so i dont know what advice she could be seeking.
Posted on October 30, 2008 09:56
my girl y is that u care wat those ppl think of you? ppl will always have something to say whether its good or bad. it is the way of the world. I understand that when it comes to the matters of the heart its difficult but it doesnt seem like ur inlove. so then my question is "what is the real reason ur staying with this man".
honey if he is not doing anything for u now things will neva change. take it from someone who has been there and when i did make the change i was mad at myself for waiting so long. Let go chile, free up urself
Posted on October 30, 2008 10:08
Thank U everyone 4 Ur comments, negative or positive. I really appreciate the people that gave me their good advice without judging. I'm not looking 4 validation or anything regarding this issue, sometimes U just need people's prospective on things, that's all! Again thank U all & Mr Proppafix 2 di Universe!! Yes sir!!!
Posted on October 30, 2008 16:32
This @itch need someone to slap her upside her head. You don't no one advise about this. You are more worried about a dancehall image than anything else. Grow the fcuk up.
Posted on October 30, 2008 17:25
My advice to you is: stop allow this man to treat you like a fool because you want to be in the "Dance Hall Spotlight" if every body else dont realize that i do. You want to look big in a him friends them eyes and the public who know him in the dance hall world, but let me tell you this all of his friends them know that he has other relationship with other girls so if you think that they look at you as any thing to him think again. SOME OF YOU GIDDY HEADED GIRLS NEED TO WISE UP. you claim you have how much degree you need to use them.
Posted on October 31, 2008 09:41
Ey boston yuh si uuuu,yuh waa play tricks pon people pickney!lol
Sweet ting baby......yuh large mi gurl!
I see some people here callin people ignorant and its only fullmoon time they act intelligent,but what is this?If a laugh a piss up!
¤Gryna¤
Posted on November 3, 2008 19:48
common sense is not common at all