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Should I tell my husband about my threesome?

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Dear Mr. Proppafix

I have some burning issues that I have to sort out before I will be able to progress with my life. I am a 28 year old married woman living in upper St Andrew with a blossoming career in marketing. My husband a handsome - well known businessman that many women consider attractive and throw themselves at him on a daily basis. We have been married for close to four years now and so far our relationship has been wonderful.

There is a huge skeleton in my closet that is getting to me; even to the point where I find it difficult to sleep at times because I feel so guilty. About six months into our marriage, I was doing some shopping on the mall one weekend when my ex- boyfriend who worked with a clothing company, called me and said he wanted to fit some of the new clothing that had just come from abroad. I hesitated but eventually agreed to pass by his place.

I had no intention of doing anything but trying on some clothes but when I was in the changing room, my ex opened the door on me and one thing lead to another and we ended up on the floor sexing each other like two mad people. He knew I couldn’t resist him because he was always the best lover I ever had. We made love a long time and I could tell that he really missed my body. The problem occurred when his friend who was in the other room sorting out some clothes ‘accidentally’ walked in on us and I couldn’t believe that my ex actually offered him ‘some’ instead of running him.
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I don’t know if it was because of the sate that I was in or because my ex has always had my head, but I agreed to have sex with both of them and they really did make use of the opportunity. They both pounded me like two men fresh out of prison.

Later that day when I got home I couldn’t look my husband straight in the face and I made an excuse that I wasn’t feeling well and went straight to bed. I felt like I had totally betrayed his trust and our vows which is something that I never planned to do.

Mr. Proppa fix ever since that day I have felt different about myself and I really feel like a dirty person. I am never happy because deep down I know what I have done and it is eating me. Sometimes succeed in forgetting but something reminds me whether it is a picture or movie on TV. I really need your advice because I can’t go on like this. Should I come clean and just tell my husband what I have done?

I am desperate

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Dear Desperate

I must begin by saying that deep down you already know the answer to your problem and although it may not be easy, it must be done if you want to be at peace with yourself. You must tell your husband the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. How you go about doing this it entirely based on the type of man he is. It must be done with caution if he has a high temper and maybe it would be better to do it in the presence of a counselor in that case. Apart from that I can only wish you all the best in the outcome of how he's going to think of you and as you must know that this can even lead to him wanting a divorce - if not now, latter. I can assure you that he will never forget what you have done and this will definitely make it hard for him to ever trust you again.

People make mistakes everyday and from the sounds of your letter; you truly regret what you have done so I am sure you have no intention of ever doing it again.

Once again I wish you all the best and next time think before you act.

Tell the truth and be at peace with yourself. That is my advice young lady - tek it or leave it

Having a problem with your relationship or anything else? Send your letters to mr.proppafix@gmail.com

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Comments (58)

 

Punanny Dan:
Posted by Punanny Dan | August 6, 2008 12:25 PM

Mr. Proppa Fix, I fully endorse your comments in response to the lady. She needs to come clean with her husband, sooner rather than later, otherwise this will be constantly tormenting her.
How she breaks the news to him is very important. She sounds remorseful about what happened, so I won't condemn her for making this mistake. Definitely, this news can break up the marriage, but if the situation is handled correctly, her husband may eventually forgive her, given time.
It is better for her to tell him the truth, rather than he finds out from someone else.



Sexxxy s:
Posted by Sexxxy s | August 6, 2008 12:28 PM

I would really think about telling your husband about this situation. I understand you feel terrible about it but it would really do him no good to know about this. It seems that you are really sorry, make peace with yourself and with god. Avoid your ex and don't put yourself in a position were you will be tempted.
Good Luck!



Heathen:
Posted by Heathen | August 6, 2008 12:33 PM

Well i think you sort of already told him with all the details in your story.

However, I totally disagree with Mr Proppa Fix. This incident occurred six months into your marriage and now you have been married for 4 years. If you have not had another indiscretion in the 3 1/2 years of marriage, I say put it behind you. they have an old saying, let sleeping dogs lie, why stir up trouble? What you did was wrong, you know it and we all know it. it doesn't make you a bad person, it makes you a person who made bad choices. Are you seriously thinking of telling your husband that you had sex with two men on a store floor? Sister, he will think of you as no less than a whore. Let it be, it wasn't your shining moment and we all have skeletons in our closets. Move on, and put the past behind you, you feel dirty and guilty and rightfully so, confessing to your husband will not make things any better for you, misery loves company and you are looking for him to be as miserable as you are. You are looking for punishment, but your conscience is punishment enough. God bless.



lovely:
Posted by lovely | August 6, 2008 1:31 PM

OMG well i guess u cant turn a HO into a house wife



denzel:
Posted by denzel | August 6, 2008 2:12 PM

yow thats why mi wi neva trust nuh oman all a dem a b*tch, sorry a di truth



FO:
Posted by FO | August 6, 2008 2:54 PM

How could u have done something like that, it was a setup from your ex to get you to this place so him and his friend could use you. He does not have any respect for you and so it wasn't a problem for his friend to join in. As for your husband either of two things will happen when you tell him: he will leave you OR he will stay with you but I can bet you that he will NEVER let you forget it and you will be more miserable than you are now. A man cannot accept cheating with another person much less two! Maybe your ex sees you as a slut and treated you as such. SHAME ON YOU! I however don't hing it's a wish choice to tell him because he WILL not handle it well and your life might be in danger depending on what kind of person he is. Remember when someone is angry all logical sense goes out the door, so be careful!



kk from philly:
Posted by kk from philly | August 6, 2008 2:59 PM

No i wouldnt tell him, you will still be hurt and also hurt him, do you think he will feel better if you be honest with him? I doubt in this situation, let sleeping dogs lie and as a earlier post stated your conscience is punishment enough, just dont make the same mistake twice, put this behind you and move on...



STEPPA:
Posted by STEPPA | August 6, 2008 3:27 PM

Everyone has an opinion, but it's all up to you. I believe in honesty all the way, so i would suggest that you tell him. I agree with FO, that your life may be in danger or, even your ex, because he is going to take out his anger on you and will hurt your ex, because a blind man could see that this was a set up. You are old enough not to fall for the line that your ex, gave you, so i have no sympathy for you. Goood luck.



toni:
Posted by toni | August 6, 2008 3:36 PM

It happened six months into the marriage and some things are better left unsaid and this case is one... The truth Honey will do more harm than good... DON'T TELL HIM.. CARRY IT TO UR GRAVE.... Just from now on think with ur head, be the best wife u can be and just try and forget it... Telling him this, u will lose everything believe me...



MIZZY:
Posted by MIZZY | August 6, 2008 4:12 PM

The only person you should confessed to is God. Girl, you made a big mistake but only God should judge you. As for your Ex, he never respect you in the first place. How could he offer his friend some, Are you a piece of Meat? Well good luck and i wish you tha best, jus follow your heart.



Posted by kennoy | August 6, 2008 4:54 PM

u f**ka u if u could control u p*ssy dat wouldn't happen and if u did love and rate u husband. 3 man battery u and u a tell him and a no rape if a mi a u husband mi k*ll u same time u see unno woman no easy



socially concious:
Posted by socially concious | August 6, 2008 5:03 PM

My dear young lady, take my foolish advice. If you love your husband and want to stay married to him take this secret to the grave with you. I can guarantee that if you reveal this secret you will destroy your marriage. A man who took the step to marry you has placed you on a pedestal, if he even says he forgives you he will never trust you again, especially with you having sex with 2 men at the same time. As for your ex-boyfriend he has no respect for you and you should have known better. Chalk this up to experience. And if you feel you must confess then find your self a catholic priest go to confession, repent and never put your self in this situation again. I also really hope that both those men wore condoms.
God Bless You.
Seek ye wisdom and understanding.



paula:
Posted by paula | August 6, 2008 5:15 PM

young lady it happen.Pray read your Psalms and be done wid it because it happen three and a half years ago.The worst mistake you could a possible make to tell your husband that you have sex wid 2 man. DON'T DO IT.

(DENZEL) yuh a ba**yman wholeheartedly because if you think all woman a b*tch dat mean seh you a f**k man ba**y totally. I ALSO DON'T BELIEVE YOU HAVE A WOMAN AS YUH MADDA BECAUSE IF YUH CALL ALL WOMAN A B*TCH DAT WOULD MAKE HER A B*TCH ALSO. SO DAT MEAN SEH A ALLIGETTA (ALLIGATOR) A YUH MUMMA. TRANSLATION... YOUR MOTHER IS AN ALLIGATOR



tm:
Posted by tm | August 6, 2008 5:19 PM

a woman will always be a woman this is what they do best cheats



june:
Posted by june | August 6, 2008 5:29 PM

WHAT THE MATTER WITH U? DON'T U NOT KNOW HOW 2 KEEP UR LEGS CLOSE.Y DID U GET MARRIED IF U KNOW THAT U STILL WANTS TO F..K UR EX N HIS FRIEND.U FIT THEY SAYIN,U CAN'T TURN A WH*RE INTO A HOUSE WIFE.UR HUSBAND SHOULD THROW U OUT
AS SOON AS HE FINDS OUT. U R A SLUT N A BI..H.



JAM 1:
Posted by JAM 1 | August 6, 2008 5:31 PM

If my girl came to me and told me a story like that it would demolish any trust mi have for her. With out trust, well it’s a waste !!!!!!!!



denzil:
Posted by denzil | August 6, 2008 5:37 PM

My girl take this advice no mek u husband know nutten cuz a big problem. Man no like bun memba dat if a one man we no like it much less two,think again my girl keep it to your self no falla nobody bout tell u husband a dead u dead or him kick u out memba a business man him hav him money so if u want him no tell him, but if no want him tell him



jim ladden:
Posted by jim ladden | August 6, 2008 5:49 PM

If two man f**k one girl at the same time that is consider battery, not threesome you are a battery dolly my friend.



Krystal:
Posted by Krystal | August 6, 2008 7:30 PM

Well i think that is really cruel of your x to take disadvantage of u the way he did, he knew he was gonna do that in the first place, he used his head on you he knew you was not his anymore so he tried to disrespect you in the worst way there was. But what puzzles me the most his that you portray yourself as this well educated individual you mean you could not figure that out. I cant believe you allow that to happen. Anyway if you do tell your husband please don't tell him that it was the both of them who had sex with you. that is what i think he would not forgive you for, and while you are planing to tell him you should keep one thing in mind a good man is hard to get so if you have one try to keep him by keeping your mouth shut.



T:
Posted by T | August 6, 2008 7:35 PM

Trust me on this. CARRY IT TO YOUR GRAVE. As a man, i would NOT want to know. You WILL lose your marriage.

If you can't live with the 'secret', then end the marriage. Don't tell him why. Make up something.

Seriously. You are talking about not ONE man (ur ex) but TWO MEN. Your husband DOESN'T need the image of all that drama in his head.

Its one of those mistakes that people don't generally recover from (unless of course its one of those relationships where nothing really matters).



gerold:
Posted by gerold | August 6, 2008 7:44 PM

Jah Know....

You know exactly what you were doing, with all those hours and hours of multiple penises being inserted in you...

Trust me if you don't tell a story like that will sooner or later come out...

I kinda understand the ex-boyfriend but him assisstant that you don't know, you are a freak str888888. This wil more than likely not be last time you do this



The_One:
Posted by The_One | August 6, 2008 7:45 PM

bwoy... and when you look at it...the WOMEN are the ones quick to tell a man he's a dog and how dem nuh trust man an so on lol...anyhow i dont think u should tell him ...keep it...try forgeting it ...someway somehow



Mark Jones:
Posted by Mark Jones | August 6, 2008 8:08 PM

YES ME KING I DONT THINK SHE SHOULD TELL HER HUSBAND BECAUSE HE WILL KILL HER SO MY ADVICE TO HER IS TO LET SLEEPING DOGS LIE



stretcher:
Posted by stretcher | August 6, 2008 8:36 PM

this hoe is ah battery dolly...di man kno seh she ah fool dats y him offer him friend some. i bet ah nuh di fust him battery har



sassy:
Posted by sassy | August 6, 2008 8:55 PM

ur gonna do more harm than good my dear...he'll probably never forgive u...and he might probably never trust u again...but its your decision..if u think it'll make u feel better to get that off ur chest...suite urself...personally..I'd keep my mouth shut and leave that in the past...besides..don't feel bad..it was a mistake...everyone makes mistakes..once is a mistake twice is on purpose



Posted by rudeboy87 | August 6, 2008 9:04 PM

OMG. thats why i find it very hard to trust a women. how could you do this to your husband of four years. you must feel like sh*t i hope you do. i'm telling you he will never ever forgive you, he may dump your a*s. if he does not he will definitely cheat on you with another woman. Dammm girl you should feel like sh*t.



southy:
Posted by southy | August 6, 2008 9:33 PM

what i find funny is where she said her ex offered his friend some. it look like her ex own de p*ssy. she very lame. anyway tek some advice from a man, dont tell him. a one thing fi hear say yu woman f**k pon yu is a next ting fi hear say she teck 2 man one time. mi cant even imagine it.baby before yu talk bout tell husband develop some self esteem



jovan:
Posted by jovan | August 6, 2008 10:33 PM

As much as I disagree with your stupid actions, I must agree with some earlier post. You should let sleeping dogs lie, but if this has not gotten off of your mind in 3 plus years then it will not in 10 or 15 or 20 years. This is eating away at your conscience and you won't rest well until you confess. If your not gonna tell your husband then confess to God. My question to you is, Do you think your ex would use this to black mail you into sleeping with him again (if he hasn't done so already) or will he let it go. However, Good luck to you and the next time you get yourself into a situation like this, think before you act. WALK AWAY and KEEP YOUR LEGS CLOSED.



TENSION KID:
Posted by TENSION KID | August 6, 2008 11:11 PM

EAR ME NUH. YOU ONLY HAVE ONE LIFE TO LIVE SO ENJOY IT CAUSE ONLY GOD KNOWS WHAT DAT MAN HAS DONE WID ALL DEM GIRLS A TROW DEM SELF AT HIM EVERYDAY.MY GIRL YUH WRONG STILL JUST BE CAREFULL EVEN THO YOU KNOW WHAT YOU WAS DOING CAUSE YOU NEVA JUNK AT DI TIME. BUT YOU ALWAYS GO BACK TO WHAT YOU LIKE DOH? CLAP IT CLAP IT CLAP IT!!!



MISSY G:
Posted by MISSY G | August 7, 2008 8:24 AM

TWO MAN!!!! EWWWWW....... THATS JUST NASTY, I MEAN I CAN UNDERSTAND YOU PINCH AND GIVE THE EX SOME PUM PUM, BUT THEN TO GIVE HIS FRIEND!! ALL AT THE SAME TIME, AM SORRY I AINT INNOCENT BUT OOMAN LIKE THAT A DRANKRO. BUT TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTION DONT TELL HIM, PUT IT BEHIND YOU, PLEASE AND JUST MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE.



happilymarried:
Posted by happilymarried | August 7, 2008 10:05 AM

Well can I tell you that I was in a similar position because I have done that plus more prior to meeting my husband and it was a real challenge to confess but I did in bits and pieces prior to ur marriage. It did not go down well and it has been over three years since he has been told all the facts and it has taken years off my life the stress that it has caused. I was advised by older stable married women not to confess but like you I felt that I had to be true...well so far I can tell you that I am still not sure it has been the best decision because it has taken a lot of work to get somewhat back to where we were and I don't think I'll ever be seen the same way in his eyes again and that hurts more than I can tell you.
That adoration and special place i had is gone forever.
I have lightened one load and gained another. So best wishes on whatever you choose to do



Anonymous:
Posted by Anonymous | August 7, 2008 10:11 AM

Yow......its ooman like unu that mek it hard fi good ooman like me.



Liz T:
Posted by Liz T | August 7, 2008 12:09 PM

Umm...My suggestion to you is not to tell him. If it is really getting to you, (by the sound of your letter, it is) then tell him, but don't say you had a threesome. Your marriage will be destroyed. And please ask God for forgiveness, then you will take that guilt that has been riding your conscience for so long!



REALLY:
Posted by REALLY | August 7, 2008 12:27 PM

first to comment that does not sound like a 3 some that sounds like battery!!!! 2nd your ex boyfriend is not your friend, if he was he would not have offered you to his friend,3rd you must have agreed to this and thats the reason you call it a 3some and 4th you have no respect for yourself or else you wouldnt have been in that situation.... Or maybe the reason it bothers you so much is because your so called exboyfriend and his friend raped you, its your doing why would you want to hurt your husband with something that you did that was nothing but nasty!!!



He Wouldn't Tell You:
Posted by He Wouldn't Tell You | August 7, 2008 2:11 PM

Sweetie...don't tell him sh*t! This was 6 months into the marriage, which was a long time ago...Sorry..but yuh know how much (*&&^ him sex since then?

Clearly it bothers you a great deal, so I suggest counselling. But don't tell him unless you want to ruin your marriage.



Milo:
Posted by Milo | August 7, 2008 3:05 PM

Well like anything,u have mongrel and you have pedigree,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,if u were way younger and impressionable I could understand. I dont see how u "didnt know" his freind was next door. U had to have some hoe intentions built in you. If u were raised with self worth that wouldnt happen,and he knows you have hoe intentions or her wouldnt bring that talk to you.
Its not good to judge,but thats my opinion.



Milton Scott:
Posted by Milton Scott | August 7, 2008 3:25 PM

she wanted her ex as much as he wanted her-she might not have initiated it by making the invitation-but she certainly "jumped" at the opportunity. And what the heck she got the pleasant and welcomed surprise of a bonus. She is now obviously bored with her husband and wants to relive the 3some but cant face up to tell her beau the truth-that 3 is better than 2!!



anaconda:
Posted by anaconda | August 7, 2008 3:42 PM

yow my girl, this has something else to it, it sounds like the husband never did a fu*k you good so u go teck a beat out from you ex, but it work out to be a battery, well if i was your husband and you confess that to me i would just tell you lets work it out. then tell you to let me have sex with you and one of your best female friends 9a real 3 some) then dum you a**. I definitely believe its either you thought or know your husband was cheating on you ar you are definitely a freak.
good luck any way and when him dump you, link me let mi give it to you right.



Posted by sweet thing | August 7, 2008 4:02 PM

first if u ex respect ur p*ssy he would have never did what he has done,second of all u should have knew n that it was plan, but he act as if it wasnt, i would suggest b4 u tell u do some research on ur husband u might be so surprise to see wat he is hiding in his closet b4 u confess



bad-gal:
Posted by bad-gal | August 7, 2008 5:43 PM

YES, WELL MR PROPPA FIX, WAT KIND OF ADVICE IS DAT? SEXING TWO GUYS 6MONTH INTO UR MARRIAGE IS NAT A MISTAKE IT IS A CHOICE SO PLEASE, MY DEAR UR HUSBAND DID NAT FLASH IN UR MIND? WITH NAT U EX BUT WEN D FRIEND JOIN, A SO U DID INNA HEAT? AN U NO SI SAH DAT DEH EX DEH JUS USE U FI SEX BCUZ IF IM DID HAVE ONE OUNCE OF RESPECT FI U IM WOULD'T MEK MI EMPLOYEE F**K U.
AN ONE MORE TING PLEASE SPEAR UR HUSBAND HIS DIGNITY BY NAT TELLING HIM ABOUT UR F**KUP DAT IS ON U.AN U ONLY.



GoldyLox:
Posted by GoldyLox | August 7, 2008 6:14 PM

Hey sweet thing.. i love that one. find some dirt on your husband girl. we all make mistakes but two men!! Damn girl you BAD!



Anonymous:
Posted by Anonymous | August 7, 2008 7:39 PM

Listen, you sinned against God. You better ask for forgiveness and restitution from him. Now with your husband, let it go, cos he'll never forgive you, there will be no respect and he will definitely start womanizing publicly. If you must talk, then get confidential counseling. Now you must have very low self esteem to let 2 men have you, I'd also seek help for that too. What is wrong with you? Havent you heard of Aids and STDs? What about if you had, had a kid and then a later DNA test showed that the kid wasnt his. Of course he set you up to show he could still get you. Next time, he'll have video cameras as evidence.

This is not good pillow talk and men definitely cannot handle it. You should not be left on your own with another man.



fantasy:
Posted by fantasy | August 7, 2008 11:04 PM

Lucky girl...that should have been me with two men...wow, but not while i'm married.



DISGRUNTLED:
Posted by DISGRUNTLED | August 7, 2008 11:40 PM

After my long holiday I was surprise to read something like this. That woman is the reason I just can't trust b*tches. The only woman I come close to trusting is my mother. How the hell she give the man tush tush to two bull at the same time? That is well low. Don't tell your husband, as men we can't live with things like that. Him either ago find a way to f#@k you up physically or give you nonstop bun. Trust me he won't ever love you the same again



happilymarried:
Posted by happilymarried | August 8, 2008 9:05 AM

You folks out there are all something else!
U all taking de woman to task and I know a lot of u must have messed up a lot..why is everyone so hypocritical!!!! With so many people giving bun and all the cheating games I wonder how come its everyone but the folks making the critical comments on here!!!???????
unoo lie sah!



Ricky Rudy:
Posted by Ricky Rudy | August 8, 2008 8:22 PM

Yow straight up nuh tell di bredda nutten, cuz him a guh mash up yuh r@$$, don't do it...... Let sleeping dogs lie and move on with your life from this point.



Toney-Ann:
Posted by Toney-Ann | August 8, 2008 9:40 PM

I am in total agreement with Mr.Proppa Fix's suggestion...I must say ur ex-boyfriend has no respect 4 you an neither do u have any 4 ur self but we are all human being an we have a tendency 2 yield 2 temptations! I think its best you tell your husband the truth as Mr.proppa Fix stated so u wont have 2 live with the guilt of him not knowing!! This may place your marriage in jeopardy as u have broken ur wedding vows, it may result in a termination of u marriage!! Despite the circumstance, i think the sooner u let ur husband become aware of this its better!! I wish u the best of luck and please ladies apply some thought 2 ur actions!!!!



MACHINE01:
Posted by MACHINE01 | August 9, 2008 10:20 AM

I REALLY AND TRULY BELIEVE SAY THIS WOMAN IS TOO WEAK TO B MARRIED.THT MARRIAGE IS DOOMED THAT'S ALL I CAN SAY, THAT IS NOT A MISTAKE SHE WANTED IT TO HAPPEN, HOW CAN U CONSCIOUSLY KNOW SAY A NEXT MAN COME INTO PLAY AND U ALLOW HIM FE SACKA SACKA U HOLE TO ,YOW U BETA KEEP UR MOUTH SHUT AND GO GET SOME BLESSINGS FR THE MOST HIGH AND BEG FORGIVENESS AND GET COUNSELING, THAT'S TOO MUCH FE ONE MAN FE BARE



Miss CC:
Posted by Miss CC | August 9, 2008 12:54 PM

Seriously, you know deep down wot u done is wrong but ur husband shud not have 2b da one 2 take on dat burden with u. I HONESTLY DO NOT FINK U SHUD TELL HIM and ruin wot seems 2b a good, happy marriage. Know within urself dat dis will NEVER happen again and MOVE ON.

Instead of focusing on ur guilt, try focusing on making ur marriage a success, to be happy and enjoy life. Wots in da past shud remain there 4 ur happiness and his.

I do suggest dat u talk 2 a counsellor and lift da load a bit. We cant change da past, live and learn, move on, be happy. I do hope dat everything works out well 4u.

Listen 2 da majority on here. DO NOT TELL HIM!!!!



warrindon:
Posted by warrindon | August 11, 2008 7:21 AM

U IS A SKETS u kno wat u was doing don't act like it just happen bout u go try on clothes are u a model and his friend walked in and he didn't run him why run him wen him kno say a dat u want u said u AGREED so u had a choie them pound u like them come outa prison yu is a SKETS I don't feel sorry fi u yu get battery and neva even mek a change bwoy yu fool. yu husband fi lef u R*$$CL**T if u never married and do it well that's on u but u married and do dat my girl just face the facts u is a $kets



romie:
Posted by romie | August 11, 2008 11:32 PM

a wh*re is just a wh*re



Can:
Posted by Can | August 12, 2008 5:26 PM

If you want your marriage KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT!! Believe me honesty is not the best policy in this situation cuz u didnt just screw one man, u screwed 2 - at the same time. You could end up dead if your husband decide to pull an OJ. Live with your guilt - time will help to reduce it. Don't do it again, and treat your husband like he's a king so he doesn't suspect anything - that means f**k him whenever he wants to be f**ked, cook him meals, give him massages, all the works. Your guilt will soon subside. Plus only God can judge us, so ask for forgiveness, reaffirm your commitment to your husband & forgive yourself & move on. Further, STAY AWAY FROM YOUR EX - NUH TRY NUH MORE CLOTHES FI HIM!!!



blary:
Posted by blary | August 14, 2008 7:09 PM

You were acting like a little teenager girl. Was u rape by the second guy, You could have resisted are cry for help because it was into a store. You were a horny dog, and you were very very weak to penis. I think your ex-boyfriend did a treesome with u when both of you were together that why he tried it again



nadine:
Posted by nadine | September 21, 2008 2:49 AM

lets say it was one guy,but 2,come on girl,if ur husband should come and tell you that he slept with two women in his office wat would you say and do? kibba yu mouth,if our ex was good enough they would not be our x remember that.I am of the impression that you got in the relationship with your husband because he is doing well,women need to independent,you sound very dependent,even though u have a blossoming career,wat u did is not a mistake,it was done on purpose,u should have taken a friend with u,evidently,u and ur x was still corresponding,now e and his friend is laughing after you and ur HANDSOME husband.to mr proper fix as u call ur self,u r proper mash up if u think this woman should tell her husband,u just say that for formality,if it was u,u would kill ur wife,dont be a hypocrite.have some self esteem young lady,the next person u must tell is the bible,pray god will forgive u talk to him ,there is no secret that e dont no,dont be a clothes pin next time,respect ur self young lady.



Izzy:
Posted by Izzy | November 6, 2008 4:01 PM

Dont feel too horrible over this, we all did/do things we would prefer to keep in our past (nobody is perfect). And certainly if it was not for you being MARRIED I would say more power to you, have fun and enjoy the threesome. But since you are MARRIED I think you only have two options here. #1. Take it to your grave, the only purpose of telling your husband is to try and relieve some pressure from your own conscience and he will understandably never get over it. Think of how you would react if you found out your husband was with two females 6 months after you were married. #2 Decide you cant live in this marriage any longer b/c of what you did to your husband. You will have to divorce so that you can separate yourself from the constant guilt > obviously with children this complicates it on many levels. Bottom line is you made the mistake -you are truly remorseful, so suck it up, get over it, get past it, and never utter a word about it to your husband otherwise the house of cards will surely come tumbling down and b/c there are children involved I do not think for a second that they deserve to pay for your mistake. Time will eventually heal! If you do insist on telling your husband then be vague leave out all the raunchy details and for damn sure leave out the 2nd male involvement.



Zagga Zow:
Posted by Zagga Zow | January 14, 2009 7:19 PM

This is why i can't trust women imagine being married to your wife and she give away the tings to 2 men... thats disrespect... Young lady be reasonable u kno that u have a husband and u a fu'k around... a idiot thing that,i think that u know what u were doing because u had sex with these guys for a long period...



Botero:
Posted by Botero | February 15, 2009 9:06 PM

Dear Desperate:

To tell or not to tell is not the question. The question is: Why now? Why wait 3 years? What triggers your sudden guilt and need to confess?

Before you make any decision, I would suggest you do two things: First, recognize the cheater-liar-unloving person there is in you the same way an addict would about his/her addiction. Second, ask yourself how your husband would feel should he know about the threesome.

You cheated on your husband 6 months into the marriage (therefore you are a cheater) with you ex boyfriend (therefore your feelings where not clear enough to make such a commitment). You were not able to control yourself and you let a totally unknown person to take advantage of you, demeaning and humiliating the woman in you. Why? Just for the pleasure of the moment? Where was your self-esteem then and where is it now?

You said you couldn’t see your husband when you got back home. That’s good. It shows remorse. Then again, ask yourself what made you able to see him in his face the next day and for the next 3 years, until now.

Do you trust your husband will be able to manage your telling him about the threesome? Will you break his heart? Is there a way he will ever know without your telling him? Do you feel you are so weak that you could fall into this practice involuntarily again?

It is true that the truth will set us free, but what you have to weight is your egoism when telling the truth to free your guilt and harm the heart of another person that might not have had any responsibility or control in your actions.

Nothing will change the past, not even bringing it to the present and sharing it with those who are only going to be hurt by it.

Do you love your husband? If you do, just love him. Love him to the point it hurts you. Instead of humiliating him by telling, find a way to “give yourself to him” to a point that it humiliates you in a loving way.

If you demeaned and humiliated yourself by acting so irresponsible without any regards for you, your husband and your relationship, I would suggest that you find a way to “give yourself a penance”, one that is good enough to make you pay for your sins or mistakes, whatever you might call it.

If the future puts you in a position to tell / face the truth, at least you will bring your penance and sacrifice to be weighted with it.




daniel:
Posted by daniel | June 16, 2009 10:06 PM

damnnn what a slut!



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