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'Daddy Don't Touch Me There' - is Anti-father propaganda

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Letter to the Editor

queen_i_frica_reggaeaccademy_photos.jpgAnti-father propaganda: Queen Ifrica's song demonizes and encourages wholesale disrespect and hatred of fathers. The anti-male feminists couldn't be happier to hear a song like this. "Tear down the patriarchy!"

Mothers, aunts, uncles, brothers and sisters also engage in child molestation, not only the father. If you were sincere about addressing child abuse, you would've spoken to all the guilty parties, which includes every single member of the household and the society at large. You would've chosen your words wisely, to reflect a balance, knowing damn well it isn't only SOME fathers committing this heinous act, but SOME mothers, and other family members as well.

What about the women who are enticing underage girls to join them in lesbian acts? Are you going to sing "Mommy don't touch me there?"... "Policewoman don't touch me there?".. "Madam Teacher don't touch me there?" And what about mothers in incestuous relationships with their sons? You know it's happening. How about a male singer doing the flip version of that song and sing "Mommy don't touch me there?" You would raise hell, wouldn't you? Because the mother is a "sacred cow" and you mustn't say anything to taint the institution of motherhood, even though some mothers should be in prison at this moment for burning kids with close iron, beating babies on their mouths with cups and doing other ills.

Every self-respecting man and father should shun you and your lopsided anti-father propaganda rubbish.

-Loving father

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Comments (49)

 

Anonymous:
Posted by Anonymous | March 22, 2008 11:44 AM

Why are you so heated about this song. seems as if you are touching some family members.



Kelroy Munreo:
Posted by Kelroy Munreo | March 22, 2008 12:38 PM

I am a man and i am telling you too go to hell, the background of your letter make you sound guilty of something



really:
Posted by really | March 22, 2008 1:02 PM

so you are upset at the fact that the song is about 'father figure' and not about the fact that it speaks about molestation, okay point taken, what if she had followed your suggestion and singled out a mother, an aunt or a schoolteacher? would it have made any difference? I think not because if you were a mother, an aunt or school teacher you would have had the same problem with the song because you would have felt singled out.. the song is not pointing to anyone in particular, the word 'daddy' was used as a representation...... maybe u have a guilty conscience.. the song means if the cap fit, wear it.. it don't fit, then you should have no problem with it..



stacy ann:
Posted by stacy ann | March 22, 2008 1:20 PM

@loving father, you sound guilty about something. Queen explain how the song "Daddy don't touch There" came about. It was written as a result of one of her friends being molested by her father. Stop hating on the Queen. In my opinion, u sound angry about this song, does it make u feel on easy... why?....



shanita:
Posted by shanita | March 22, 2008 2:02 PM

THIS PERSON NEEDS HELP.....IF LOVING FATHER WAS REALLY SO LOVING HE WOULD HAVE HELPED HER BURN OUT THE WORTHLESS PUPA THEM AND ANY OTHER FAMILY MEMBER AT THAT WHO MOLESTS A CHILD. THE FACT OF THE MATTER IS HER SONG MAY SAY DADDY DON'T TOUCH ME THERE BUT THAT IN NO WAY EXCLUDES OTHER MEMBERS OF THE FAMILY IF YOU LISTEN THE WORDS CAREFULLY. SO INSTEAD OF HATING ON THE QUEEN GO CLEAN UP YOUR MIND AND PROTECT YOUR KIDS FROM THE EVIL OF MOLESTATION..........LOVING FATHER

MORE STRENGTH TO IFRICA GWAAN BUN OUT A DUTTY LIFE



Say What:
Posted by Say What | March 22, 2008 2:25 PM

To the Letter to the Editor writer [real or contrived]:

Obviously at any one point in time that an artiste writes a song it is because (s)he got an inspiration either through experience or the relation of someone elses or some external influence at that point or some other point to write; at other times the song is written over a longer period. Needless to say no one song can cover every area on a particular subject. I would hasten to add that in the sphere of Jamaican music that many denigrating things have been said about women to which some women protest while some ignore them because they know the things being uttered are not in reference to them personally. Indeed what you have mentioned about women being abusive and so forth is true; likewise women are sometimes viewed as sacred. In the same vein men are view as being abusive, destructive while also strong, protective and I could go on and on. Sometimes we tend to overanalyse when there is no need. While you may be a loving father, there are many who are mere impregnators aka sperm donors, some who prey on children because it is easier than being mature and dealing with the complexities of relating to an adult. So in addition to you being a 'loving' father maybe you can teach other men a thing or two and stop being so angry.



betru2u:
Posted by betru2u | March 22, 2008 2:57 PM

what kinda careless sh$! article is this? the man must have guilty feelings and that is why he feel so defensive! Daddy don't touch me there is a song about the fathers who have molested there daughters every individual song does not have to touch every individual topic. lady saw wrote a song about the rape and molestation she experienced should it be bannd because men are not the only ones who rape woman rape too??? fringging dunce man!!! what the hell is mentally wrong with the writer of this article?? i want to meet his daughters and have them checked out for abuse.... god have mercy on your black soul



mfumuyasena:
Posted by mfumuyasena | March 22, 2008 3:18 PM

Hey man it seems like you are one of the fathers who do the immoral practise shame on you big up Queen-i-fricaaaa!!!!!!!!!!!!!uva kuwawa Queen-i-frica is dere to burn you.You better apologise before it get worse man.



TONY:
Posted by TONY | March 22, 2008 5:12 PM

A WHO DIS FOOL YAH MAN YOU SOUND LIKE A CHILD MOLESTER YOU IDIOT WAT IF SHE IS TALKIN ABOUT WAT HAPPEN TO HER



Anonymous:
Posted by Anonymous | March 22, 2008 6:59 PM

I think that what you fail to see is that the inspiration for this song could be coming from her heart her experience; everyone; hence she can only express what she has experience.

I agree with you totally; I was sexually abuse when I was nine years old by my uncle...a trusted family member.

Queen Ifrica is quite aware their are other predators, oppose to just the father.

This is a subject that is dear to my heart; that is reason why I became a social worker to help the helpless, young children.



Dyma WAS here/:
Posted by Dyma WAS here/ | March 22, 2008 7:33 PM

The father who wrote this is clearly too over analytical about this song.
Newsflash, FATHER MOLESTATION EXISTS!!!
You think Queen Ifrica would HONESTLY have time singing about all sorts of molestations? I seriously doubt that.
I don't know Queen Ifrica personally to say she faced that but I know young men and women who were molested by their fathers. It happens, get over it. Ifrica was not generalizing fathers as child molesters, but you know what they say, a few spoiled apples ruin the bunch. But for those who are proud fathers and don't resort to touching children to seek pleasure. Be proud and simply dont care about what Ifrica has to say, because it does not apply to you.



Posted by blitz | March 22, 2008 9:57 PM

why is this man so angry.as a man and a father i love that song,i think she is making a point about what goes on with a lot of fathers,i cant remember the last time i heard a boy or a girl saying that their mother touch them in a wrong way,so check your self before you dis the empress



sj:
Posted by sj | March 22, 2008 10:53 PM

SHUT THE F>*>C>K UP!!!!!!



Dahlea:
Posted by Dahlea | March 23, 2008 2:34 AM

Queen hit them where it hurts!! You seem to have touched a nerve a very raw and exposed nerve. We have to acknowledge that these things are happening and until we do the problem can never be fixed. I agree it is not only fathers who are committing these acts, but a large percent is done by fathers biological or otherwise. The song is what it is. Kep it real Queen. may be someone can write about all the other child molesters female, or otherwise...hint hint



TOP BI-YATCH:
Posted by TOP BI-YATCH | March 23, 2008 10:08 AM

LISTEN MR. MAN.........U SOUND SOOOOO GUILTY THAT IT PISSES ME OFF JUST READING YOUR ARTICLE. AS A PERSON WHO WAS MOLESTED, IT IRKS MY BONES TO HEAR ASSWIPES LIKE U COME AND SPEAK ABOUT A SONG LIKE THIS............U FRIGGIN GUILTY THATS WHY IT BUN U SO............STOP F**K U DAWTA OR U SON.............G*NSH*T FI ALL MOLESTERS...



Ryan:
Posted by Ryan | March 23, 2008 11:15 AM

I am a male father who does not see anything feminist about the song. She is singing about the most popular practice of child molestation in a family, personally I think that if you believe in the message that she is sending then you should not have a problem with the song regardless of which member of the family you are.People who try to sweep the harsh realities of life underneath the carpet will always have problems with songs like this which are sending a strong message to those child molesters and cudos should be given to Ifrica for bringing a serious topic in our Jamaican society to the public as a song like this can deter some of these hideous acts of molestation and also give courage to an individual in the situation to speak out about it. Good song.........



justice:
Posted by justice | March 23, 2008 11:21 AM

This song is one of the best song put on paper. one love to the queen. if you lick out on this song you have a problem so check your head. keep it real.



Sally_g...:
Posted by Sally_g... | March 23, 2008 1:00 PM

Yes Yes..comment numr 1,y is dat so cal lovin' fardah,getting,so HEATED..CALM DOWN !! U need 2 listen 2 da lyrics n respec' da fact dat DADDY'S DO TOUCH DER...i've known ppl 2 guh tru' dem life deh,n it is no joke..Dem life,been goin' on fram yrs yrs,u hear ppl,it happn,2 alwayz,step dad,or daddy!!! yes other members ov da family,do do it,but @ di end ov da day,QUEEN IFRICA,has every right 2 sing that BIG TUNE,n represent her song,4,CHILD AWARENESS,CHILD ABUSE!! So if u have kids,u would support,HER. she is not directly,callin'a dads name or saying all dads,but she is puttin'her point across,2 those DADDYS out der that r,ABUSING there own kids,whether it b boy or girl..it is happening,so JAM UR HYPE,N STOP GOIN' ON LIKE UR GUILTY,OV SITTIN...OK.. BIG UP MI MS IFRICA,BIG BLESSINGS FOR UR AWARENESS,U HAVE MY 100% SUPPORT EVERY TIME...



tapiwaah:
Posted by tapiwaah | March 23, 2008 1:42 PM

dont see nothing wrong with this song here.



lisa:
Posted by lisa | March 23, 2008 5:59 PM

I wonder y u r so against this song, did it hit a cord just asking



Anonymous:
Posted by Anonymous | March 23, 2008 7:22 PM

Come on now, why are people so insecurely sensitive? This, like manner songs address a particular social ill that effects society. She, as an artist, felt the need to address the matter. There are many other issues existing that other artists choose to adress and sometimes glorify certain social ills such as crime and violence. I am a father and see no harm in the song as it is a problem that exists in our society that must be addressed and I applaud Queen Ifrica for doing so in the manner she did. There are good fathers and some real mentally sick and perverted ones.



Ras Possible:
Posted by Ras Possible | March 23, 2008 8:49 PM

They need to stop di crap cause She was speaking on her personal experience as a woman we all know that molestation can be done by anyone mother,father, cousin, next door neighbor, pastor,decon,babysitta anyone!! so tell dem fi shut dem mouth this song is her personal experience which happen to be her father which to me is the worse of the worse person to get molested by & she is not bashing father's at all but is making people of aware of what is going on & her testiment!!



FACE:
Posted by FACE | March 23, 2008 11:25 PM

O.K I AM HERE TO SETTLE THINGS, THE QUEEN HAD A LIVE INTERVIEW ABOUT THIS SONG RIGHT, SHE WAS INSPIRED BY A LIFETIME MOVIE THATS HOW SHE WROTE THAT SONG...AND PEOPLE PLEASE STOP SAYING ITS HER EXPERIENCE NO WAY OR A FRIEND EXPERIENCE NO WAY...ITS COMING FROM A LIFETIME MOVIE AND ITS ALL ABOUT REALITY SO SHE BROUGHT THE WORDS OUT THERE TO ALL THE MOLESTERS.

STOP BEING ABUSIVE, THAT LEAVES A SCAR FOR LIFE!!! "WHO THE CAP FITS LET DEM WEAR IT"!!!!



supared:
Posted by supared | March 23, 2008 11:56 PM

i don't know if the writer of this letter is a child molester but he has obviously been molested. bredda if you have been molested you need to be angry with the woman who molested you not queen ifrica. i doubt her intent was to offend you or bring back memories. she is addressing a problem which is prevalent in jamaica. seek counsel. good luck.



Posh:
Posted by Posh | March 24, 2008 11:56 AM

Suh she touch your corn? You sound hurt, is it because you are one of those men touching their daughters? The fact remains men sleeping with their daughters are more wide spread than the others you mention and its about time someone put a spotlight on it. Big up Queen Ifrica



fonando:
Posted by fonando | March 24, 2008 12:36 PM

i think your argument is quite silly,yes there r other things that is affecting the youth,but the subject is naughty father



Anonymous:
Posted by Anonymous | March 24, 2008 12:38 PM

your argue ment is silly,the subject is naughty fathers,lets stick to that.



Steppa:
Posted by Steppa | March 24, 2008 12:47 PM

I have to agree with the writer, but I have to defend Queen Ifrica. She is right were a lot of father are touching there kids where they are not suppose to, but she touch on a subject that many are afraid to. She did her part about "Daddy Don't Touch Me There", so another artist can do a remix or remake and put their part to it. This song can be done in so many ways to get the point across. I don't Queen would object to a remix to her song. We need to address a growing problem in all of our society. Great work Queen Ifrica. My opinion.



yesiyah:
Posted by yesiyah | March 24, 2008 1:49 PM

He's not saying u shouldn't talk about abusive daddies, he's sayin why not INCLUDE the other members of society who guilty as well. If u want to stop crime u don't arrest a few and leave the other guilty ones. Arrest them all. I guess he was right to say, to mention mommy would raise hell. look at the anger in here. lololol



SAM GOODY:
Posted by SAM GOODY | March 24, 2008 2:04 PM

U R SO STUPID AND IGNORANT. YOUR LETTER MAKES NO SENSE OR PURPOSE YOU WASTED YOUR TIME TO WRITE THAT BULLSH*T. YOU SOUND AS IF U R GUILTY OF SUM TING, THE SONG IS PERFECTLY CLEAR AND MEANINGFUL. WHY DON'T U GO AHEAD AND WRITE THE SONG DUMB A*S.



oonuh:
Posted by oonuh | March 24, 2008 2:06 PM

Jamaican people nuh like justice. when u talk the truth them flare-up. too much criminal deh yah. Nuff a oonuh vex cause oonuh mumma a molest oonuh, and yuh shame fi read bout it. It out inna the opening now. All woman teacher a molest school girls: "Lesbian teacher bares all"

http://www.jamaica-star.com/thestar/20070813/news/news1.html

How she nuh get arrested? the puppa say fi target all wrong doers, hypocrites!



pam:
Posted by pam | March 24, 2008 2:38 PM

ifrica go ban yuh ugly self. yuh notice when anybody meck a tune but mommy is always a good tribute song. Nobody nuh meck negative tune bout dem dutty mumma weh abuse them. And di one time summady a meck a song bout daddy, is a piece a bl**dclaat f**kery! go sing a tribute fi di good father dem or go ban yuhself. Nobody nuh respec daddy, that's why nuff daddy nuh remember oonuh. Di mumma always a tu'n di pickney dem gainst them daddy, so nobody nuh feel nuh way fi sing sh*t bout daddy. Oonuh go learn manners. sh*thouse.



NSAE:
Posted by NSAE | March 24, 2008 3:28 PM

Look like this person is quilty as hell ....who the cap fit let them wear it



Dioscuri:
Posted by Dioscuri | March 24, 2008 7:03 PM

This man must have some serious issues. I would not have bother to give his article any attention or post it for that matter. Queen Ifrica is a Queen for a reason and her words are scathing to child molesters. Dem have a saying in Shakespeare, " I fear the lady doth protest too much" from Hamlet and by his protesting, I can see he is one that the song is talking about.

FIRE NAH BURN GREEN BUSH!



Scuzeme:
Posted by Scuzeme | March 25, 2008 11:28 AM

This man yah sound guilty a sitten! As someone who was sexually abused by my father I can personally identify with that song. That experience has haunted me till this day. Even though I am happily married, but I have issues with sex. I cant enjoy it as some women can. I have been through counsellings, but I am still scarred. When a father sexually abuses his child who loves and trusts him, he knows not the damages he causes to that child. I will never be a complete woman as God meant me to be because of what he did to me. I for one agree with that song the Queen did! It should open the eyes of the public of the hurt a child feel physically, emotionally when they are abused. Mr Loving Father, u need to shut up! As a matter of fact, u sound a little bit too much of a "loving father to me" ...hmmm...I wonder what your daughter thinks of u?



Goodazgirl:
Posted by Goodazgirl | March 25, 2008 12:36 PM

IT'S ABOUT TIME SOMEBODY BRING LIGHT TO THE SILENT VICTIMS OF SEXUAL ABUSE WHICH IS USUALLY AT THE HAND OF A MALE (FATHER , UNCLE, BROTHER, FRIEND). I applaud Ifrica for singing this song. I cannot imagine what this writer could be thinking to really write such bullsh*t. Well maybe his sole purpose was just to provoke.



bluejobs63:
Posted by bluejobs63 | March 26, 2008 1:19 AM

If the cap fits, pull the string man. You sound really guilty! Fyah pun all child molesters!!!!!



Real Talk:
Posted by Real Talk | March 26, 2008 12:25 PM

To Loving Father

Who even let you write an article like this talking a whole bunch of f**keries. Yuh a IDIOT? Dont think you have any support from real father because your article doesnt mek sense. I must feel bad for your daughter if you have one with a father who thinks like this. Its because of people like criminals are living great because they have FRAUD PEOPLE backing their actions. How can you even think the way you think you must be real ignorant not even understanding the song itself. She unveiling the secrets of the reality and your trying to diss her. She doing what most artist should do. Bring out the truth. She throws the rock if it hit you then you guilty to r**s. And yes im a father and i have daughter and FIYAH BUN ALL CHILD MOLESTER AND BADMIND PEOPLE WE NUH NEED ROUND HERE. BIG UP TO QUEEN IFRICA KEEP DA FIYAH BURNING THESE GUILTY PEOPLE.



me vex:
Posted by me vex | March 26, 2008 2:03 PM

TRUE THING FATHER. All who want get vex, make them blood vessel pop. Nobody no do tribute music for the fathers, only badmouthing. Why Ifrica didn't target everybody committing the same crime, and not just the father alone? She anti-father yes. Denounce her rubbish music until she lick out on the molesting mothers and aunts and uncles and teachers, for real, and stop demonize daddy. When you see all other daddies a get vex you know say them accept that no good father exist. Cause all them hear is that no good father no out there. Is that them grow up with. Correct them and let justice be delivered to all. Not just daddy, but even the brother and sister and granny and the whole dirty lot! Long live the real daddy! Man with backbone.



Anonymous:
Posted by Anonymous | March 26, 2008 2:16 PM

@ father. You must write an article bout how man a hang for murder, and woman not hanging for murder, so the wicked shall cuss you and say man committing most murder, as if any murder a no murder. lol. Cause man must face punishment but woman must get away for the same crime. Write bout that and provoke them again. Me love it.



innocent:
Posted by innocent | March 27, 2008 12:04 PM

leave the man alone u ignorant jackasses all he's sayin is dat dont point on one person but all..........n for yall information im a proud mother!!!!!!.......if u molest either mom, dad. cus, etc u mus be punished nasty set of critters.....n to u ugly batta face ifrica whey the bobo dem f**k up dung n aroun a molynes rd b4 u get yuh hit why u neva sing about dat? u f**kin rasta freak



big up Ifrica:
Posted by big up Ifrica | March 28, 2008 12:30 PM

What do you expect, it is a freaking song. She cannot just put all the different names of all the different relatives and make it work in the melody. Why didn't you write an article addressing all these people instead of projecting anger towards the song? Yuh must be a toucher too why you are so upset. Idi Buh.



Pookie:
Posted by Pookie | March 29, 2008 2:43 PM

Again people stop taking the songs so literal.



Mr Eclectic:
Posted by Mr Eclectic | May 13, 2008 9:05 PM

If you think that's bad, you want to hear the one by Nobless Oblige. It's not dance hall, but it's easy to listen to.
http://www.myspace.com/noblesseoblige
punk alternative take on the same- it's like the are enjoying it. I guess 'Loving Father' will be first there.
Love pun Queen I-frica



Anonymous:
Posted by Anonymous | June 4, 2008 7:58 PM

Well smart guy, one reason that Queen Ifrica's song says nothing about, "mommy don't touch me there," or uncle, brother or sister, is because you can't quite fit all those characters in a 3 or 4 minute song. And for anyone with half a brain realizes that sexual abuse is rampant in the Caribbean, and that that particular abuse is perpetuated by men against their daughters. This song is not anti-father propaganda, it's trying to raise awareness about the scourge that is sexual abuse in the Caribbean.



Anonymous:
Posted by Anonymous | June 21, 2008 9:23 PM

as a father i love this song. if i was to even touch my daughter in the wrong way , i would kill my self even before i thinking of touching her , it is against god and humanity to do such. queen much have had a bad experience with her father, so the laws of the the different lands should sentence such men to sloe painful death, by hanging them by their pennis in the center of the captial city. thsi will indeed sent out a clear and clean message to the rest of the male public. if mothers and woman tend to partake in such activities such as molesting their sons or any male member of the family , or any male whatso ever , the same jumgment should be cased on them.



Rob:
Posted by Rob | December 28, 2008 8:43 AM

You are all idiots. The title of the song literally means "Destroy Fatherhood"... Go read a book and improve your vocabulary.



Rob:
Posted by Rob | December 28, 2008 8:48 AM

Per FBI statistics, the safest place a child can be is anywhere with their biological father. Research that for yourselves.



Whaddup:
Posted by Whaddup | July 9, 2009 4:09 PM

At first I listened to the song and thought nothing of it. Then a week or two later I was listening to the radio with my kid and she (8 year old) was listening, too. I wonder what she thought if she was listening to the words.. I would prefer Ifrica said "daddy, don't.." and then later maybe "uncle dont.." and then "auntie don't.."



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